Divorcing Covert Narcissist Will Challenge You Stay True to Yourself February 10, 2020 37 By Sebastian Fry CategoryArticles BlogTagsafraid to leave co parenting with a narcissist codependency narcissism covert narcissism covert narcissism in relationships covert narcissist covert narcissist husband divorcing a narcissist divorcing covert narcissist divorcing covert narcissist with children divorcing narcissist leaving a covert narcissist husband leaving a covert narcissist wife narcissism narcissism podcast narcissist smear campaign surviving narcissism word salad narcissist 37 Comments Mounir Elogbani says: February 5, 2020 at 1:03 pm Great tips as always. Thank you so much 👍🙂 Reply Tara W says: February 5, 2020 at 1:22 pm Going through this right now. It’s truly terrifying. Reply Edna O.n says: February 5, 2020 at 1:54 pm You gave me goosebumps when you talked about your decision not to live in fear of what your kids will think. And the goal of life lessons. Thank you for all your videos. You are a great help to survivors of abuse. Reply du315h0k says: February 5, 2020 at 1:58 pm I am so glad I found your videos.I'm going thru this again and even though logically I can tell myself these things it really helps to hear you talk about it and encourage everyone to do what I know Inneed to do. I appreciate your style of speaking. Reply Markus123 says: February 5, 2020 at 2:29 pm Going through a divorce with one now. Left 15 months ago and not much progress since. She does everything she can to slow down the process. I'm glad I was able to secure 50/50 custody of our daughter from the start or else she'd have all the power and I'd be toast. Oh and she's totally financially destroying me during this process by not working on purpose and dragging it on with lawyers. Thanks for your helpful videos! Reply Daniel Jackson says: February 5, 2020 at 2:29 pm very soothing and inspiring Reply Pipedktr says: February 5, 2020 at 3:15 pm These demons attack both women and men.My ex-wife is a very intelligent covert narcissist. She smeared terribly me to my business and children.She destroyed both to beat me into submission.Her use of our children as clubs and battering rams to bludgeon me was beyond any evil I have ever seen.I refused to agree with her horrific lies about my character and worth.I stood up for my identity and she went nuclear to destroy every one and everything around me.Her need to subjugate and dominate is boundless. It is Satanic.Everything she blamed me of was exactly what she was saying and doing herself.I’m an kind empathetic loving man.I am high achiever and strong Christian.She is a cold detached stonewalling liar.Yet, I can see the good God put in her and, tragically, how she is so deeply twisted with fear and self.She is a beautiful person so terribly twisted and damaged.It is demonic oppression.We are not to be unequally yoked.She faked her way into my heart.The love bombardment stopped after our wedding And then she started WWIII nuclear war on my character and identity.This is not psychological or psychiatric; it is spiritual demonic oppression. Reply jenson west says: February 5, 2020 at 4:33 pm my mom left my covert narcissist father when i was two. he has been trying to make her life as difficult as possible ever since and uses my sister and i to do it. it’s interesting because he’s friends with pretty much every other woman he dated, except her. i think it’s because she left him, not the other way around. anyways, i’m gonna be 18 in 4 months so i don’t have to see him anymore. even though it has been hell having to see him constantly for pretty much my whole life, i did learn what a narcissist is like and now i will be more aware when i date someone. Reply Gi Gi says: February 5, 2020 at 5:18 pm Fear and anxiety are big. It seems hopeless. Reply Alice Roberts says: February 5, 2020 at 6:50 pm Thank you everything you said is what’s going on it all right and true. I haven’t had any rights in my marriage for 31 years. I worry about supporting my daughter and my self and my dog. It very scary but I don’t have a choice he’s insane, he’s malicious, he’s evil. It what you said about your N he’s killing me. He’s making me sick. He will buy my daughter I won’t be able but her the new phone . I will be taking her to live in poverty with me. It makes me sad that he will blame me when I did everything I could! 😩. He already started the smear campaign with her but she see it I hope she can continue to see him for what he is. Reply Mike says: February 5, 2020 at 7:19 pm It's a shame they will never reflect on how they acted in the relationship . It's always we are the bad guys or girls we are will be the ones they blame for things they know done especially with all the double standards . I always was told don't do as I do but do as I demand you just shows how hypocritical these toxic people are . Reply Susan Mark says: February 5, 2020 at 8:07 pm It's time to wake up and know that there is light and know you are enough .It takes courage to let go in order to move on.We all have choices. Reply Odette says: February 5, 2020 at 8:32 pm Lisa, excellent video. Your life echoes mine. I'm free from the ex now… the fears over the kids were the biggest concern. It's true tho that they come to see for themselves, in time, what the narc is truly all about. Much love to you, amazing woman! 🥰 Reply Rita R. says: February 5, 2020 at 8:44 pm Thank you Lisa Reply Kimberly Morgan says: February 5, 2020 at 9:21 pm I swear these videos were written for me. I’m trying not to let fear get the best of me and it’s true I’m scared to death of the outcome because of our children and it’s funny because he keeps telling me that our relationship isn’t healthy for the kids to see, yet we’ve lived in a vicious cycle of toxicity that he likes to mention is all my fault. I need to break the cycle. Reply MD Ma says: February 5, 2020 at 10:44 pm What was the actual problem with your husband? Reply Patricia Roe says: February 5, 2020 at 11:55 pm I’m at 32 years of marriage and 25 years into being in a place of unbalance. I’m only 2 months into accepting in my heart that there cannot be a resolution with my narcissist husband. My mind is on overload seeing what my heart refuses to unsee. I am leaning on your advise to help my mind comprehend and accept my fate. It’s a hard road. Reply Leslie says: February 5, 2020 at 11:55 pm Lisa, I started my journey with research on passive/aggressive behavior as well. Your story mimics my exactly. Reply Carlender Edwards says: February 6, 2020 at 12:04 am i have never heard a channel compare narcissism to slavery unril now my heart ached hearing this but my gut knows its true. Divorce for one year now after 23 years i thank god i got out alive. Reply Suzanne Frie says: February 6, 2020 at 12:57 am Do you offer a certification program? You are so gifted, smart and intelligent and I would love to learn further from a course developed by you so that I could help the teens and service members that I encounter on the job. Reply Mykey Farrington-Manchester says: February 6, 2020 at 1:35 am You have developed Your Experiences or Should we say A Tough as they Come Apprenticeship to put it mildly into The Most Complete and Comprehensive Self healing body of Works of Our time.When you love and you care you. love and you care it's in the make up although you try to hang on to a bit of energy for yourself. Sometimes you give it away.When I Feel drained and I can not give any more I put one of your YouTube meditations on and let myself relax and fall asleep.sometimes I wake up and I'm halfway through one of your other meditations. And it's great because I'm listening to a voice that I trust. And you can not put any amount of money, lottery winnings, or treasure on that. Because To be able to relax listening to a voice that you trust, That is the Treasure Right There. I'm only Saying because they are so pure there is a Magical Energy About Them Meditations. That is Naturally beautiful Cleansing and Invigorating . So to anybody if you can find some you time without any interruptions Try it. It really does work. And if you feel that priceless magic. Tell others it just might start them off on their own path to healing🌠Thank You Lisa All My Love You Give Me Strength❤🌈🎤🐩🐦xxx Reply Trisha Bee says: February 6, 2020 at 2:32 am Wow. What great information. Thank you for your help and guidance Reply Grey Rock Survivors says: February 6, 2020 at 5:19 am I had to stay strong to my self to leave the narcissist and I went through this twice one with an overt and another who was covert. You. The covert was the hardest one to leave as I was second guessing if she was a narcissist or not. I kept strong and got out. Another brilliant video, thanks Reply Deborah Armstrong says: February 6, 2020 at 7:31 am Going through this right now. Reply Charmaine Doherty says: February 6, 2020 at 8:55 am Yes this has helped me. Just divorcing my covert narcissist husband after 30 years and I can confirm that it is very scary and I do worry about what the children think. What my soon to be ex is doing is monopolising our three children's time. He always needs some help and keeps them busy with him. It's lonely and frustrating Reply MAD Penn Food Channel says: February 6, 2020 at 12:14 pm Great video. 👍👍👍 Reply NismoFury says: February 6, 2020 at 1:49 pm My mother is a narcissist. She puts me through hell. No one cares and she has fooled everyone. It's amazing. I show facts proof of things and her dumb minions just believe whatever she tells them. Of course they're her minions. I can't believe how many mentally ill people there are. There are so many fake people in this world just faking their way through life. 😳 Reply Teacher Dilo says: February 6, 2020 at 2:47 pm Thank you Lisa for sharing your knowledge with us living with narcissistic people It's very bad because they turn everything you say against you. And they make you feel like you are guilty all the time. They are totally passive aggressive people. And once you start to realize this Behavior it sets you free. Thank you so much. Reply Candy Wilkins says: February 6, 2020 at 4:12 pm I divorced a covert- narrisst!!! I was married for 31 years. I'm permanently disabled from his abuse but through his stripes I am healed. He tryed to turn adult kids against me and he left me disabled, homeless and bankrupt! But I'm smiling now because I am feel from this demonic spirit!!! He always told me what a burden me and our kids were. I always had to get govt. Asst. Because he wouldnt provide basic human needs to us as a family. My parents had to provide everything for us and they ended up losing their home. God has protected me from him and I'm soooo blessed to be out!!!🙏🙏🙏❤❤❤ Reply Fun Lovin Bloke says: February 6, 2020 at 9:57 pm I ended the relationship with my covert narcissist ex partner because I wasn't allowed to be me anymore and couldn't be me anymore. I felt relieved and happy when I was out of this toxic relationship. Although I find my ex partner still very attractive from the outside, the inside is so empty. No life. Her father is an overt narcissist. She is a covert narcissist. Her oldest child is becoming also a narcissist. He is the 'golden child'. It is so sad that life after life after life is ruined. Reply Teacher Susan says: February 7, 2020 at 9:54 am That‘s what I was going through ❤️😭😭😁😁😁it was hell but I got out a stronger person and a role model for others who are afraid to leave.You are so inspiring Lisa ❤️ hi from 🇩🇪 Reply Lisa A. Romano Breakthrough Life Coach Inc. says: February 7, 2020 at 3:38 pm #covertnarcissistic #covertnarcissists #covertnarcissist #covertnarcissisticabuse #covertnarcissisticmother #covertnarcissisticfather #covertnarcissistexposed #covertnarcissistabuse #covertnarcissistawareness #covertnarcissisticbehavior #covertnarcissistrecovery #covertnarcissistmother #covertnarcissisticparents #covertnarcissistsrhere #covertnarcissisticabuseawareness #covertnarcissistabusesurvivor #covertnarcissisticabuseunmasked #covertnarcissisticabusesurvivor #covertnarcissisticabuserecovery #covertnarcissistscompartimentizetheirlives Reply JD Connie says: February 7, 2020 at 3:55 pm Wow Lisa! This video is so profoundly helpful and inspiring. Deciding to teach them life lessons is the way and to love them unconditionally. You have helped me so much with your 12 week program and the master class. This video was so helpful! Love you girl! Jamee Reply Jaxieaxie86 says: February 7, 2020 at 5:25 pm IT'S UNREAL AND DIFFICULT Reply Jaxieaxie86 says: February 7, 2020 at 5:29 pm They sneakily talk about the good parent They harm children by lying and not talking to the other child. Reply Jaxieaxie86 says: February 7, 2020 at 5:33 pm Mine LITERALLY LOVED S & M. WHAT A MIX Reply Attie’s Mom says: February 9, 2020 at 4:16 am Thank you so much, Lisa. I have been separated for 10 years from a covert narcissist. I am finally about to go through mediation/divorce. I am so scared, but ready to be free. What's funny is that until recently, I never believed him to be a narcissist. Reply Leave a Reply Cancel replyYour email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *Comment Name * Email * Save my name, email, and website in this browser for the next time I comment.