Why Is The Truth So Unacceptable? Call In Show

Why Is The Truth So Unacceptable? Call In Show

February 12, 2020 38 By Sebastian Fry


let’s get it let’s get this is going to be
interesting show we used to be shout out to the CIA one love FBI let’s go ahead
get everybody tuned in hope you guys can see the stream see the show hope it’s
looking good on your side let’s see what’s going on here
because one thing I want to make real clear as we get into tonight’s show
we’re not gonna have a bunch of insults going on
moderators I need you to pay special attention tonight to the chatroom
because this is going to be a sensitive subject and we’re not gonna have it
getting out of hand and out of control okay we’re not gonna have it getting out
of hand out of control that’s just not what we’re gonna do so here’s what we’re
gonna start off with first off we’re gonna start start off with everybody
said hello to one another introduce yourself to people in the chatroom let
everybody know in the chatroom your age and the city you’re hailing from and if
you’re a man or a woman so in the chatroom that’s all so let’s get to know
one another let’s see who we’re talking to so do us all a favor and then just
shout out and say hey this is my age and this is the city I’m hailing from and
I’m a and I’m a woman I’m a man you know anything you want to put in there because tonight we’re gonna try to
broach a subject that I think needs talking about many people have asked to
dig into this and we’re we only get anywhere we don’t get anywhere
our selves okay and if you didn’t see last night’s show over the last two
nights shows you committed some pretty good stuff you know you’ve made some
pretty good stuff you’ve missed some pretty good stuff what is the truth so
why is the truth unacceptable why is that older women and single women and single mothers
I wonder women is single mothers see what we’re not going to do tonight is
we’re not going to sit around and just throw a bunch of insults a bunch of
insults of people we don’t get anywhere that way we don’t get anywhere that way
and that’s not them that’s not the spirit here because I really want to
have this discussion with I wouldn’t really have this discussion people let
the folks talk okay you have 50 a 19 year old woman in San Francisco
shout-out to Tammy she’s a member of the channel 31 years old in Atlanta okay so
here it goes the monologue you can’t handle the truth you can’t handle the
truth people would remember that line from the movie a few good men in which
Tom which Tom Cruise and named this Jack Nicholson were going at it right you
can’t handle the truth had old grizzled war veteran
stand and got this young upstart prosecutor coming at this dude
and that line will stay with us forever because depending on where you grew up
you don’t have older men being challenged by young guys and also
depending on how you grew up you didn’t have you certainly now had women being
challenged by any guy so how many people who saw the show last night how many
people saw last night’s show I put a 1 in the chat room if you saw last night’s
show cause if it was a it was a doozy what’s going on with the internet the
internet just kind of slow right now you did not see last night’s show you
missed a heck of a show highlighted by a very honest young lady 29 year old
mother 2 from Denver she and I were on the call roughly 35 minutes roughly 35
minutes we were on the call for anybody that watched the show last night
do you think do you think I gave her some direction so some some actionable
things to do if you think I did I gave her some actionable things to do or I
gave us some direction put up yes in the chat room if you think I basically did
nothing except scold belittled mocked shamed insulted made fun of and
ultimately mystery this person and here’s the here’s the
keyword that i exploited her i exploited her put a put a put a put of five in the
chat room if you believe that i scolded berated exploited this person put a five
out there okay i waiting for the five see a bunch of yeses at a two hundred
forty two people watching I don’t see any fives yet don’t see any fives yet so
what that tells me is that I did a pretty decent job with this person I’m
looking at the women in the chat room Oh somebody said I gave gave me a five and
said but she needed that that’s that’s kind of crazy to me but we’re gonna
we’re gonna go ahead and build on that we’re gonna go ahead and build on it
because ste what it really shows what has really been kind of shown to me over
the last several months here on specially on YouTube is some people just
don’t have the stomach for the truth just don’t so we’re gonna get into it
tonight because for those of you who are familiar
there’s a woman by the name of Rebecca Lynn Pope she’s right here on YouTube
and she made a viral video entitled women’s unrealistic dating standards
Rebecca Lynn Pope was a very well-known matchmaker and her video basically was
entitled why I stopped why I’d no longer work with women and in that video and
that video Rebecca Lynn Pope runs down the fact that she’s a
beautiful and that is almost a million views nine hundred and sixty thousand
views as video has women have women why women have totally unrealistic standards
for men dating in marriage this is a black woman this is the black woman here
in Atlanta and this woman proceeded to run down why she stopped being a
matchmaker for women black women and what she said is she was used to dating
professionally in pilots athletes entertainers the creme de la creme of
men she didn’t ever have to date some dusty rusty busted dude but she ended up
marrying her husband Carrie Pope was a pastor and when she realized this that
she could go back and find a pilot a politician this net and then her clients
was still finding ways to reject them to the point to where she said you know
what my when I came to Jesus is like when I realized that these women
wouldn’t even accept my husband and ain’t as cute as me and as accomplished
as me and that’s what she said so if you have not seen that video I
suggest you go check it go check that video go check out that video I made a
video in response to her basically talking about responses from the three
percent men that means men over six feet tall
earning over over six six figures only three percent of men earn a category now
they all come down to we juxtapose it with what
happened last night and I gotta tell you last night was just was a show like a
lot of other shows where you know I had a young guy called lien he was real
passionate but he didn’t want to list and I had a bunch of other you know you
if you haven’t listened to the shows you’ve heard me pretty much talk to me
and in women you’ve heard women talk to women but last night was a little
different and I’ll tell you why I was different you guys remember that after
that show was over last night I had to actually cut it off because she kept
saying well let me ask you well let me ask you or what I need to do she kept
asking for more information remember you do you got you guys who did you guys see
that that I had to basically cut her off I had to be like okay ma’am I’ve
answered your questions as much as possible so we went from for 30 minutes
now if she had booked the 30-minute session with me she just meant at least
$499 right oh no no no no nope no lies ma’am first up don’t come in here talk
about online cuz I got see there’s the beautiful thing about the public record
and tape she’s in the chat room you can address me and you can come back on the
show because I’m going to read your response as a jump-off point to why so
many women are unrealistic is unacceptable you know I had women on the
show the other the previous day and the women talked to the women okay but this
is a pin comment in my comment section I think last night’s cock let me let me
just go ahead put it up on the screen for everybody just just for just so we
can have the record clear because I need you guys to be understanding ladies I
need you understand why this is so important to me when you make
accusations about somebody as a man and as a woman that means something and this
woman basically came on and said I think the conversation was great but I also
know that most women who are single parents
see the error in their ways at that point berating choice of word seems
pointless there should be more focused on what to do moving forward first of
all no one berated you you weren’t berated so now that was some
humor injected there was some sarcasm but you weren’t berated I don’t take
this stuff personally but you got to also remember due respect ma’am you
didn’t pay for a consultation you called into a show and asked someone’s advice
you want you telling me what the focus should be on it’s pretty dadgum arrogant
telling me what I should focus on you haven’t focused on you’re around me back
up that’s you should be more worried about but this is unfortunately what
happens when people when certain when people today hear the truth we have a
choice to either accept it or reject it and far too often especially for women
the more a woman has the more difficult she is from Rebecca Lee and Pope the
more education the more unrealistic the more money she makes the more
unrealistic the more age the more unrealistic the more weight the more
unrealistic so we’re going to go through it model G the next comment was models
over five foot seven what does that have to do with the price of tea in China or
for a woman with two kids in Denver who wants to marry a guy so she can sit
around be a writer see how we just pull this stuff out of the air model was over
five four seven ten inches I enjoyed the call but part of me feels that it was
more exploitative than helpful that’s where I have a problem
you gonna have to call in another you got the caller and explain how you were
exploited you see what happens gentlemen ladies understand stuff the men are not
paranoid in this me too environment this woman’s that said I berated her and then
she says that she feels like she was exploited what was exploitive about you
calling into a show getting 30 minutes with somebody that you didn’t pay for
and you had to be shoed off to call ladies I need you guys to help me out
here cuz I’m how the ladies come on this show and help me and help them in
understand how can men tell you the truth because the very next comment
the very next comment was from is V I agree I think women should know what men
think about them when they do certain things but they should never come into a
man’s space to learn how to become a better woman put a part let’s put a
period there just like we can’t teach them to be better men women should come
here to listen over choose the meat screw out the bones and my response to
Miz and then of course her response was great view see and I asked miss V so you
can go back and look at all this stuff that’s why I kept them up here because I
am glad this happened I said so interesting Miss B so you shouldn’t so
you should listen to women to understand what single available man thing see miss
V said women should listen to men but go hear women to become better women here’s
the problem with that unless you’re marrying or dealing with
women what you guys think really doesn’t matter who often women will tell each
other what you want to hear I’m not going after any dating coaches I’m not
going after any platforms but there is too much prosperity preaching being
given to women today in general black women in particular this acceptance
culture telling you you can have everything the results of your own life
show you can’t that’s why the women in this that was the question
why are women want are people who service women starting to walk away from
them why are the people who built their business starting to start now to do
this anymore because the question has to be asked why let me go to my community
tab because I knew this is going to be a from video fraught with problems because
when it comes right down to is we the truth is the truth tends to be harsh
reality is the world the world does not owe you understanding no one has to
understand your background and here’s what I wrote on my community Kay page
you can’t handle the truth classic line from the movie a few good men the truth
is rarely popular but its necessary for improvement for everybody
however today more professionals are choosing to see fewer work with less or
completely avoid providing services for women when asked the reason it’s usually
women today have completely unrealistic standards or expectation when it comes
to blank with this acceptance culture coupled with women being told today that
they can have it all and do it all more and more women are frustrated unhappy
than ever before it’s not uncommon to hear women say I’m ready to level up get
married change but when real-world questions are asked the issues start
deflection denial anger kill the messenger and these are just some of the
things that occur we’re confronting it with the reality of situation why is
this why is the truth so hard for some women older women and single mothers in
particular it so hard to accept and yes this can be a problem for some men
however that’s nowhere near as widespread as with women some guys have
this issue but it’s more with women and understand something this thing has far
ranging applications because I will tell you right now I typically don’t work
with women for this very reason you can service a woman like this
you can actually sit down work with her and because she doesn’t like the truth
she’ll go online and start trying to berate your reputation and what I money
back look this is not specific to me when you’re told the truth and you’ve
gone around and talked about somebody berated you or exploited you or when you
come to you go to a matchmaker and you tell them and you reject the pilot you
reject this you reject that it’s never good enough when you come to somebody
like myself it’s like hey I ready to get married inside of a year and I want I
want a 3% man and you’re five foot seven and 330 pounds and you’re 50s
yes real stuff 300 pounds and you fit these and I’m like no one can deliver
that the first thing it Leticia you can come up tonight because the first thing
you said last night was I’m gonna let the round I’ll let the record play I
will let the record play because we’re going to get into it because make no
mistake this is not about just last night this is about more than just last
night hit the like button I’ve been following your content I find it very
helpful however you ain’t telling women what we need to do we need to well
that’s the problem it has to be told so you want to know how to level up no
problem with that but I made a video talk about but are you willing to pay
the price are you paying for the information you just wanted
oh yes they are no I’m nervous of fatherhood there’s a new children what
do you suggest a mother out of the dating world last night I started out
saying why don’t I don’t discuss it now her ultimate question was what do I say
what do I advise women to do if they want to get back out into the dating
world and level up that was your question and I spent the next 30 minutes
thoughtfully asking you questions and respond unex is simply that all I did
responding to what you asked and then we go down to if you got a didn’t read this
comment section I need you to understand that she was just bold enough to say
with so many women and with so many women like her believe some other
responses were a lot of folks need therapy you also
don’t know if I received any the assumptions made by Kevin and and
follows are really disappointing I like this show assumptions may I ask you
question upon question among I don’t need those so many thing about you
because you told me everything I need to know but what does what other people
need to go to therapy need see this is this is what I need you ladies to under
what I need you women to help me out and help guys understand who can tell you
the truth who can tell you the hard truth not this powder puffs everybody
can win you can be fifty years old and still meet your Boaz and get this you
cannot eat that there’s like like you can just decide like that that you’re
ready to be married and I’m you’ll find a man who’s going to be a provider and
take care of you there’s a lot of people out there selling you guys this snake
oil because it’s easy to hear I mean if I wanted to I could easily
turn around and you know what if I really wanted to have a Milly subscribe
by the end this year all I would have to do is tell women the world is yours and
start befriending the LGBT community I would be a million subscriber channel by
the end of the year but I got to sleep at night so I made assumptions apart a
corner I typed and deleted so many comments but I realized there’s nothing
let’s get down to what what did you really say again the folks here hate
women black women in particular this is what she said go in the comments section
it’s all about everybody else these people women people here hate
black women these folks on here have apparently never done anything wrong in
life trying to explain myself in these comments as a fool’s errand okay then
you have women coming in there are no assumptions man he just faced you with
your situation so I need you to come through a lady and understand I need you
to explain how you were berate it exploit it how I made assumptions about
you how I gave you no real direction when I gave you at least three different
three different options I said counselling 50 left million times
I’m gonna need you to come up here and tell everybody what’s so wrong about
what I said and what’s so wrong about what men try when men try to talk to you
again I don’t know you I don’t have any dog in your fight but what but if but if
that can happen to a guy who’s running in the platform what do you think
happens out in the real world again if if I can actually be dealing right now
with someone who followed me was all over my platforms wanted all my advice
was the inner said and then we actually sat down and talked about their
situation that you really wanted to discuss and we just get to the truth of
it but unpretty truth that the world looks at
they’re not there’s not a lot of market for three hundred pound fifty year old
women there’s not a lot of market for you know women with multiple children by
multiple men and it’s just not but instead of just accepting and saying you
know what maybe I do need to go do some work on myself get there but no you’d
rather turn around and say I’m disappointed in you
this should have happened now notice how she was she made this about me like I’m
wrong I didn’t I didn’t do this to you so this is why so many people in my
opinion are stopping dealing with women in general black women in particular
because you just don’t want it recurring is real on this one mr. Samuels I salute
you good luck Godspeed because the truth is
so many of you will say well it’s the words you use what words should be used
because I happen in case you were out I didn’t call you ever had it who’ll again
I didn’t I didn’t run you down in any kind of way I spent 30 plus minutes and
I’ve done this over and over the thing is when I noticed juxtaposed this when I
got pushback from the young men I got pushed back from the young man up at the
beginning but you know what I got from the Manatee in middle in the middle in
the end they were sitting back in their chair listening at least the third of
them have written me emails trying to request more information thanking me or
wanting to book consultations because men understand the world doesn’t owe us
anything like it or not you can’t have it all and what the world has told a lot
of you ladies it’s not working but apparently you can’t hear apparently
there’s something that we men just don’t possess we there’s just no way to tell
you guys the truth so here’s what I like Roxy you here fitness mom if you hear
shy if you’re the sister young lady from Land’s at the previous night of view
here you can come on LG can come on Letitia you can come on I want you
ladies to talk to each other about the reality of that call last night and this
mindset how do you get to level up how do you become the best version of you if
you cannot hear the men tell you the truth miss V you’re more than welcome to
come up to because there’s this whole thing about how men should talk to women
and I’m sorry ladies most of you were raised with a father you don’t know you
don’t know man you want men to be women Rebecca limp
Rebecca land Pope said it ourselves a lot of you ladies think men are to act
like women men are men if you cannot deal with a little bit of
what I said last night you can’t deal with that you are not ready to be
involved with any man worth his salt if you can’t deal with that ma’am I don’t
know what I don’t know what to tell you but I want I want to let Rebecca Lynn
Pope come on here and and run a little bit down fair use fair use fair use fair
use but many women are very very very realistic about their standards for men
dating and marriage spare you so I’m gonna give my opinion on this and now
listen girls I’m about to be very wrong I’m about to be very real I’m about to
just shoot it to you as just straight as I can because I’m hoping that this helps
somebody because as you girls know I’m a matchmaker
and for a large part of the end of last year and beginning of this year I
stopped matchmaking and the reason I stopped matchmaking is because I
literally was being I I can’t handle female clients I was imaginative at
Matt’s penis and I had a few male clients but predominantly I was matching
women and listen what I it was such a valuable lesson for me because what I
learned is that fair use doesn’t really want just a good man she doesn’t want a
husband what she’s really wanting are these standards or ideas that she has of
what a man is supposed to be did you hear this woman say she learned a
valuable lesson the women don’t want me and they want these this list why
because just like so many were very honest they don’t know us
we’re just a list of stuff how they think what they value it’s just this
preconceived you know idea that women have okay so literally the standards
here that I see consistently in women that stay single do not get married and
the difference between women and wives it’s understanding what the men thought
women he’s not gonna be the best friend like your best girlfriend you can’t talk
to him like that they talk like that they don’t talk that much
they’re not so sensitive Letitia you focus on me don’t focus on the chat
room focus on what I’m saying this is why a lot of you women fall
short is so used to being masculine and manly you want to fight everybody focus
on the guy that you’re trying to talk to you you said in your one of your
comments that you dated your feminine you’re all this if you if you if all
that was true ma’am you wouldn’t even been calling last night more deflection talk about your word reign supreme
that means nowhere close to feminine not work anyway focus on me because I’m not
Rebecca Lee and poke tell you some more I’ll get into it go get more into it so
if you expecting men to talk to you like women talk to you you want men to be in
some panties you want us to be and that’s not us but again just like
most boys you aren’t raised with a father either because you’re holding
these standards like he’s a girl I’m sorry
lean back to your gay guy friends or let’s talk later
let’s go you’re comparing good men to fuck boys I’m just gonna say you’re
comparing good men to the men too experienced previously who are not ready
to be husband that you were dating I mean literally there’s a distinct
difference between marriage material men who are ready and who are rented
husbands and these as boys that you messing around with and out of these
situation shifts with four years and some very standard for man and a husband
based on these dunes that have just been play play play boys fun boy toys
whatever you want to call it girls okay you don’t have the problem she’s talking
about no see you’re going in a link because everything you mentioned we
don’t have to worry about the problems she’s talking about there are five
hundred and seventy six people in here and plenty of people last night you’re
fighting everyone you have your own issues and there are always going to be
specific to you but the problem is there’s a common theme here for our too
many women by too many older women single mothers have unrealistic dating
standards that’s what becomes extreme she said women’s unrealistic dating
standards but there is they definite tick when you think you can b-29 out
here with two kids and find a $200,000 you do just gonna let you sit around and
be a writer or when you can be 55 or fit in your mid-50s and been 300 pounds your
entire life and think you can find a man who’s going to be ripped and attractive
and take care look now what what is it going to take for you ladies to be able
to hear the truth it doesn’t matter if it’s being yelled at you are cursed at
you it doesn’t matter if it’s in written form it seems that it doesn’t matter
even if it’s someone speaking to you calmly and professionally doesn’t matter
women are saying it just seems that you don’t want to hear it where it comes
across this you want the world to do say it doesn’t matter you just want your own
way and the thing is the world ain’t gonna argue with you you’re gonna get
your result and yeah you can date all you want to I have not met a woman yet
that I work with who did not have access to a penis I have known women in my life
who were wheelchair-bound who was sexually active if that is going to be
the height of where you rank your sexual Marketplace value or whatever come on
again you want that one of you ladies going to grow up and just say here’s
what it is it’s unpopular innocent it’s not pretty but what because I’m not
gonna let guys now here’s the thing and I want to first off congratulate latisha
she was honest she was honest about what she thinks and she’s being honest now but I want to understand ladies is you
ladies talk to each other how can you guys help each other get what you want
because apparently no man can tell you a man’s truth I mean if
I would mean Derrick Jackson and those kind of guys who will tell you that
single mothers are for real men you know shoutout to Derrick Jackson he’s
prosperity preaching how you gonna get what you want out of life if you’re not
willing to really if you’re willing if you’re not if I mean less than 24 hours
this woman turned on me you exploiting me you berated me I’m disappointed yes
and I know like wow this happens in business too this why don’t this is why
I don’t work with women I had there too many women out there that when you
actually sit them you wanna oh you want to look like Beyonce you want to wear
dolce gabbana you want to wear you you want to look like this person they don’t
make designer clothes in size 28 like you can’t be you can’t make a 270 pound
body look like a hundred and thirty pound body thin enough Spanx enough
waist trainers to do that men like women to look as natural as possible
we’ve air extensions too much makeup all that stuff look like men associate that
with with with girl toys Derrick Jackson give me a paper though yeah he will
you know what and the thing is I could switch up just like that if I cuz
believe me I have the sales skills the charisma the ability to sit around and
I’ll tell you right now I have to do is start saying black women your Queens and
you guys out there some suckers single mothers up for I could write it up
single mothers are for real man I could write it up real good and then start
having trans people LGBT friendly folks just just be just be cool with
alternative lifestyle because because there’s a lot of home
sexuals in my line of work there’s a lot in fashion and style and fragrance you
think that there aren’t a ton of gay guys over here so to be a heterosexual
black man in my industry I’m already an anomaly
so oftentimes I’ll have women come and ask me you know what usually when I’m
dealing with the man who’s creative or this that they’re gay that’s wrong with
that that’s what you are I want to know what you think and here’s the truth if
what somebody is telling you from a professional standpoint makes you cry their intent is not to make you cry but
i’ma just be honest far too often women will cry and I’m like the scale says
what it says you know this you see you getting out of the shower you know this
but I honestly believe that it is thee I honestly believe that it’s the boom the
hardcore somebody telling them for the first time unequivocally that you’ve got
a lot of things going on in the way I think a lot of mister for the first time
someone’s told them no you can’t have it all yes you’re going to have to do a lot
of work just to get a shot yes you’re gonna have to delay gratification just
like the young girl the other day who was like well why wouldn’t you want a
deep boy he’s got money and you want it all I mean it’s like okay we’re not
here’s what we’re not gonna do we’re not gonna turn this into a woman balancing
session so my brothers for the guys who were you know when at red pill that make
town stuff hey hey my chat room is I’m not doing it you know that I want to get
off if you want to get your rocks off shooting at women Amen this ain’t the
place I mean I keep it real but uh we don’t go overboard here cuz that’s not
the tone that’s not the tone so look and here’s a
funny thing this show is going to get crazy okay I see people in the waiting room
all right I’m gonna let Robert and Leticia in and I’m gonna let you guys
Hollan each other real quick hey Robert let’s not miss my partner from Memphis
Robert is a good dude salt of the earth kind of brother speaks
to a lot of women consistently he has a Facebook page where women come to him to
hear what he thinks he and I agree on a few things I’m far more blunt on a lot
of topics but people trust his view Robert I’m Mike you I’m you you and
Leticia here’s what I need for everybody gets on a platform don’t um
pay attention don’t pay attention to the chatroom attention here I’m gonna take
this woman’s sound off because here’s what I want to know ladies why is it so
hard for me to tell you the truth Leticia lit the ship yeah I don’t I
think how am i pronouncing the finishes what man in your life do you have they
can tell you the truth I think my issue is not about the truth that time with
the frustration is I didn’t have a problem with what you were saying what
you’re saying is before we go into your question can you just answer the mind we
can have dialogue you’re gonna be able to say whatever you want but can you
just answer my question that’s rude ma’am you just basically said basically
you just said fuck what you talk about and that’s not cool it’s not a gender thing I don’t feel
like anybody tells you the truth most people tell me what I want to hear I
asked you what men in your life do you had they can tell you true there you go
you have no men in your life they can tell you the truth that’s not an insult
it’s not stolen it’s not berating so if you can’t if you don’t have any men in
your life that can tell you the truth how can you get the truth from men about
you do you think this a fair question I need
a fair question but I just I don’t understand I don’t I don’t understand
where we’re going with that because I’m not I don’t have a problem with the
truth that’s kind of what I’ve been saying the whole time and I think that’s
why you’re not cleaning out all right oh well we’re not trying to first off see
you’re already coming to me like I’m your enemy like you don’t want to answer
a question because it’s like well you’re trying to out think me like we’re
playing emotional chest I’m not doing that with you my disaster what many of
your life can tell your truth none okay where do you get it the truth about you
from men if you have no man they can tell you the truth and the answer is you
don’t you don’t get the truth from men about you because no one can tell you
the truth so if you only can get the truth from what you think and from women
but you have to deal with men there’s a disconnect there that’s just simple
logic and s in your situation is far too common men don’t tell women the truth
because well for various reasons but go ahead because you said you keep saying
you don’t have a problem with the truth okay
what did you want to say I do want to clarify some things who does that feel
like they stopped the comments on Linux and don’t pay attention to the comment
section but also based on what you’re saying I think there’s a
misunderstanding of like where I stood with what you’re saying I didn’t have a
problem with any of the things that you said in terms of me taking
responsibility for what happened everyone saying she’s not taking
accountability in it and I’m really confused about that excited totally feel
like I did when I was talking about no I was in critical thinking no I didn’t
have foresight I totally took responsibility for the fact that I’ve
made some bad decisions didn’t weren’t one-night-stands these were people that
I was in love with but I didn’t have the foresight to see that it talked to me
women learn to last I was young and I made dumb decisions I think my whole
problem was they just it’s the exploit the exploiting thing came in when I was
saying it just felt like we kept harping on that and I get it
it’s your show we are going to do whatever you want but it’s just like if
we keep going on that and I’m saying I already understand that and it’s kind of
like well it felt like I was just there to be an example for other people
because if that part doesn’t do anything for me if I’m saying I’m already
understanding that no I’m not I’m not I don’t have the right to the 3% of men no
I’m not saying that every standard has to be exactly what I want which goes up
and we were talking about the ladies that doesn’t work with women anymore
that’s not my problem I’m not saying a man has to be six foot tall and he has
to make this oh I don’t know what this happened she dropped off but I want to
say something regarding what she said oh here she goes
go ahead you dropped off go ahead Robert I’ll get to you in a second I’m going to
stretch a camera down to bruh I’m shut your camera down until it’s time to get
on while you’re getting your microphone together latisha the word exploit verb
to make full use or derive bit of benefit from yes I made full use of
everything you told told us for your benefit and for anybody else’s benefit
to watch this show and because you have no men that actually have ever been in a
position to tell you that it needed to be repeated because everything we talked
about in your situation from college to now has been repetition see what happens
it’s oftentimes is you say accountability
okay accountability is not a problem I feel as though I took fill
accountability I’ve said it over and over again let me tell you something
ma’am you don’t believe what a person says I believe what you do and if you
really taking accountability to the level that you’re trying to convince me
and others you’ve taken it too you’d have some work to show you’ve not done
anything in your life to take accountability as far as therapy
counseling any of that stuff you just you just you just say no problem you
said because asked you if you had I did ask if you had okay ma’am
maybe you asked everybody that question I asked the previous call people
I asked all three people after you man so because okay so you been to therapy
yes I’ve done work on myself that’s what that’s it makes it so frustrating I have
been work I’ve been the things that you talk about to become a better woman I’ve
taken accountability my actions have shown that I read I’ve received help I’m
talking to people I’m doing the things that I need to do to make the changes
I’m not don’t hold on ma’am understand something
take that they’re great I’m not discounting their but what’s but United
stage one what stage would you think you’re at and your own because go ahead
cuz I need cuz because when it sounds to me like is you saying it’s it’s not as
bad as I was making it seem or were you framing it so I don’t what do you think
you’re at as far as are you still in therapy counseling yes
I did yes I am I just recently started up therapy again I’ve done it in the
past and the therapist before what a good food so I didn’t go for a long time
okay okay how long did you go to therapy the first not long maybe I went in this
when I was way younger I had probably like a few weeks or something like that
but I do okay you do so what’s the longest you’ve ever been in
therapy I’m not long okay ma’am so here’s what I need you understand is you
just said it’s not as though I haven’t been in therapy but don’know automat I
don’t man it made it mmmm kick ma’am over talking me is not going to change
but went but when but when I asked but when I just did a little bit deeper on
what you said your own words undercut you have not been in it that long you
went for a week okay so let me tell you this regardless as to what you’ve done
are you getting the different outcomes forget the work okay I was someone who’s
been in therapy and who actually is a counselor used to counsel alcoholics and
addicts even when I was in my marriage of my wife we went through six
counselors and what I did not when I learned what I learned going through
this is that there are certain personality types that reject counseling
it will always be like my ex-wife by the third time we went to any session by the
first time it’s a get to know you the second time they really kind of figured
out where goes but about a third time a qualified counselor really starts to
hone you know what the issue is by the third session she was always really
quick that she has a pain as an angry black woman she’s a racist that’s a man
that’s a white man to where our final counselor was a black
woman who was a single mother who was married who had a steps
it was almost mirrored our situation a black man a black woman in the black
woman in finance and they all said your husband is doing above and beyond man
she did not want to move any further she was a narcissistic borderline
personality so what I’m saying man is you want me to hear that you’ve gone to
therapy I can hear it but what I’m hearing is it
hasn’t been a length enough time or consistent to really make any difference
what you’re saying that I’ve done other things I know those things that you’ve
done have they been self-directed cause you said you read not everything is just
some director I have had mentors and yes I have done reading and researching and
followed under people who were inspirational I guess what I’m saying is
I understood that I’ve had problems and I’ve never denied that and I’ve been
open to resolving them and I’m still working through things but I don’t I
don’t really feel like those are the main things that’s holding me back it’s
not like my mind is just all over the place no matter I made terrible
decisions in the past and I’m a totally different person from who I was at that
time it’s literally by night and day I almost can’t even believe that I was her
and now my issue is trying to make you a different person I talked to you I
talked to the renowned version of you last night I didn’t talk to the version
that you’re talking about see here’s the thing we all remember
where we were when we started but each one of us has our own issues that just
lets us all know how far how messed up we were you got to get to normal that’s
what I’m saying we got to get to normal and what you saying is your night and
day okay but if you but then why still the level of combativeness and the same
and I ask you about decisions that you would make our choices you make and you
said it with York today mind and your today mind got you the response from
the people in the women in the chat room the people watching the show I mean
that’s one point okay let me tell you what do you think okay you’re over on
this side and what people were saying is over here when do you start listening to
what people say other than what you believe listen and only thing I’m
hearing is people are saying I’m not accountable and that I’m being
delusional and I’m literally saying yes I’m taking responsibility and I’m not
losing oh because I don’t have any specific expectations on having a
certain type of man so I’m told are invalid so I’m not understanding why
there’s this demand that I have therapy I’m just doing all of this wrong I’m
like you know what am i doing that so crazy I would say I will tell you this I
would tell you this man the woman anybody who quits therapy it’s just like Tiffani gonna get just announced right
now mute the stuff in the background on mute
people who quit therapy it’s just like people who quit chemotherapy and
diabetes medicine they started trying to do their own homeopathic or whatever you
are on your self-directed stuff you and that’s the thing you still feel like you
know better than other professionals the people who are licensed and trained to
help people in your situation you said you had a mentor due respect ma’am
mentors are not identical counts do mentors are not clinical counselors
they’re supposed to help in different areas of life they’re not I’ve had
mentors too but they’re not they’re not see you have this this stubborn streak
that I agreed for me you want to do it your way and you can but the net-net of
it is are you getting the outcomes you want because you talked about what you
want it last night and you don’t have that you say you still keep you don’t
attract guys with kids you you don’t have any
you you attract a certain kind of guy this like Rebecca Liam Pope was talking
about boys you said that you want everything and you would say that you
don’t want everything don’t you you said remember when kevin has said that she
had wanted everything or you was saying that if someone has said that you had
wanted everything and you said that you bring I don’t know needed that right
well the thing is one that he said that or whoever was saying that she want
everything what they meant by that is you want a man who makes enough to
support your your children preferably without children of his own you say he
can have children of his own but she was somewhat preferred that he does not know
I did not say that and that’s what I’m talking about this is what’s frustrating
because I did not say that but you want a man whether he has children that is
fine and you want this man to have enough make enough money so that he can
at some point in the future not saying right now but near future be able to
afford the lifestyle of having you as a stay-at-home mom for the kids that you
have any kids that he may have and any future kids that y’all have together
right yes but there’s also other compromises that come along with that
if unfading of if I’m dating a man who has children then we’re both starting
off on the same page also if I’m willing to compromise on other areas
attractiveness and height and all the other questions he was asking me what
I’m willing to compromise on a race even as I’m making all of these compromises
on what my standards would normally be if I didn’t have kids then to me I don’t
understand how that’s wanting everything when I’m saying yes there’s these things
that I would point in a perfect world but I know I probably can’t have that
and I’m willing to be married let me answer the question okay this man just
as a question did you hear Rebecca limpo the excerpt
that I had on the channel were you paying attention to her I caught some
glue but then I got on the line so Rebecca limpo ran down women have this
list that they want and everything you just said it was what Rebecca Clem Pope
ran down you never list and what you’re saying to us is though I have a list and
you call it standards but it’s a list and I’m willing to compromise on things
off my list like he does not have to be as attractive as I would want he does
not have to be as tall as I would want he does not have to be he would the race
that I would want but to you you’re compromising and you think that that
should get you points in his category but it doesn’t the man’s you just taking
stuff off your list that doesn’t matter you’ve not said anything about the
character of the man that’s it you’ve not said one thing about the character
of the man in two days let me stop you right there hold on let me stop you
right there because you got a woman who’s only you who’s older than you and
you’re frustrated with her and a man that’s all you’re frustrated with
everybody who’s trying to help you at some point you need to sit anyway you
can’t be you didn’t get that far if you really were in the mindset you need to
be in man with your self directed help and your books and everything else that
would have been the first thing you would have started with it’s character
we wouldn’t have to go through two days it would have been the first thing if
you really work a renewed mind I definitely care about a man’s
character I’m not just out to get one specific thing I definitely am NOT an
unreasonable person when it comes to a relationship and what I’m willing to act
like it’s just so not true Fitness mom been Robert because when I’m hearing is
I’m mischaracterizing you let me tell you something man
I can’t mischaracterize the things you say you say what you say
I can’t mischaracterize the words that come out of your mouth I could do that
if I was if I was telling people what I thought you said so I reject the fact
that you feel that it’s an unfair characterization because you say what
are you saying what are you saying okay I would definitely like a man
restaurant here I’m not saying I didn’t want anything as far as personality as I
do have values and things that I want we didn’t talk about that I thought we were
all one part of the subject doesn’t mean that I don’t care about other things I
was just staying on topic and I don’t think I should be judged for that all
I’m saying is this the normal standard that most women are once again a man
that’s my where I’m at and that only means I was talking about hiding all the
best cuz I know those are popular things that people say particularly women
they’re usually saying all these specific things that they want in a man
hi how he has to work and how much I make and blah blah blah
and I’m saying but most common things are not what I’m searching for that’s
all I was saying and I just don’t understand how anyone is meeting
anything else out of that except for what I’m saying
the reason the reason why they give that out of
what you were saying you think that you’re not saying it but you are
indirectly that is what you’re saying the reality is when we talk about
character you-you-you steal you said you said those popular things really that’s
what you are you’re just repeating what what other women are saying that’s
really just a just stay in that didn’t matter to you if race didn’t matter to
you all these things didn’t matter to you it wouldn’t come out your mouth
you wouldn’t even Mitchell would even talk the first thing out of your mouth
would be character questions he asked me that I answer those is what i’ma do for
you I’m going to let you reframe the conversation you tell everybody who you
are and what you want because what you’re basically trying to say is you’ve
characterized me this way and you ask me leading question basically this is all
my boo do i baby this I made this tar baby for you and it’s just a trap that
the victim of you fell into and it’s not fair and you maybe look better so guess
what clean slate clean slate clean no one’s going to interrupt you
you know everybody what you are and what you’re looking for and set the record
straight I’ll do that go ahead take as much time as you need to set the record
straight I mean is that fair I was out the side to the other side definitely
play there’s been a lot of assumptions this is what I’m saying let’s start with
the accountability piece I have no issue there I really honestly don’t I’ve
worked through it I understand that I have those issues there’s a reason why I
haven’t continued operating since this was years ago
I’ve stopped for a reason because I understood the error in my ways I was
falling for the wrong people made the wrong decision but I don’t
understand how many times I have to say that before it’s like okay we got it now
let’s go to the next step yes that’s a problem no that’s not okay and because I
understand that that has happened I understand my options are different
I do Dave and I don’t date a dusty geyser or however you said it I totally
do not I do David good guys so my main issue had been the fact that I do have
children and the reason why I brought up men me wanting to date name last
children is for that specific reason for some reason I don’t attract men who have
children I hear women complain about all the time that they only attract men with
kids I wish I wouldn’t have that problem I wish I ran into that I just don’t I
run into the high value men that you talk about and I understand that a lot
of the times I’m not able to measure it because of the baggage and the different
things that I’m having to work through and so my main reason for calling was to
say okay look I’ve done this work that’s how I was coming to you I’ve done this
work I’ve had a mentor I’ve done the research I’m Dan journal entries Amy
I’ve done you know other stuff so to talk about knowing what you’re trying to
heal yourself you get all of that I’m when I went to you know little women’s
groups saying I’ve done only mister and I feel a lot better I’m
having healthy relationships but now I want to know what does a woman do who
has done the work and in cash or you can’t change that can’t suck them back
in not that I’m in this situation what do I do to be able to move forward how
am I able to make my situation more appealing because if I wasn’t the woman
I’m saying I am I wouldn’t be able to attract high value man and be able to
Zettler and it’s not just sex I know a lot of people are saying that I’m not
sleeping with every man that I’m dating you mentioned you will they buy me
things they take me places and all of that so then it comes to the crossroads
of like okay now we’re at the next step of are you going to be a stepfather what
are we going to do how is this going to work and I feel like okay maybe if I do
to the guy who our kids this would no longer be an issue but I’m just not
running into that so now what do I do and I feel like when I called in and I
wasn’t ever ever able to get to that point it was just about let’s just talk
about the fact that you have these kids to begin with and it’s like I get that
but for me yes that is berating I’m saying
Oh glad you thought knowledge we won and by the way the rating is finding it
doesn’t mean that you were bashing me I’m not saying that you were being
disrespectful I’m just saying that it was hard doing and I was not able to
move past that as far as character no I didn’t bring up
the character and the first topic I didn’t bring that up because I you had
asked me questions about specific things and I’m simply following up on that
conversation today I didn’t leave the conversation so I’m just going with the
flow of what was already expect the first question asked to me wasn’t
what is the moral values that you want your man has that’s not what I was at I
was asked that this conversation will be a lot different as far as what I want in
a man I do want a man whose values family
I do want a man who’s open-minded I would like it intellectually because I
consider myself long as well I want someone who has old but I am limber I’m
not saying that he has to be one particular way or Sean Conway I don’t
think that even difference little reviews things that I used to be harmful that’s pretty much that’s pretty much it
all I’m saying is I was just ready to go to the next point and I feel like
everyone was talking to me like I’m just as good around who doesn’t understand
that what she did was wrong and she doesn’t know what to do with her life
she doesn’t have direction and I’m like that’s not who I am at all and I don’t
have those problems I don’t have the problem attracting me in any shape form
or fashion and I’ve never had that’s that’s literally what my problem is I I
tried too many men that I got these children everyone I’m hating once
they’re children with me oh okay okay you took two minutes to set the record
straight I’m not gonna retract any of that well they’ll just stay there
but I want to actually go back to something you say because you focused on
that you there’s something you said there was key you believe your main
issue with not being able to it you believe that you would be able to you
want to have a family because you value family when I go to that but you said
that you’re not able to attract men with children right
all right and you also said you that women with children that you know other
women don’t have the issue of attracting men with children right mm-hmm they need
it huh they usually hate it they complain about
it but that’s what you would want to attract but you attract what you are we
all do okay what does that mean and I don’t I don’t know I just didn’t
it to be a bad thing that’s like I don’t know no no no I’m
not asking you what did I’m not gonna put anything into it we all attract what
we are what does that mean about what you are you’re not attracting family men
I don’t want I’m not attracting that we met on the charge amid you want to start
a first family they want to have a family they just weren’t expecting for
coming into this type of situation and these conversations are being okay I
mean you want you can you don’t attract the kind of man you don’t want are
irrelevant what does that mean I don’t know that’s kind of that was really that
was what I was losing well ma’am i’ma tell you everything that I tried to talk
to you and show you that what the answers were all there but she rejected
them all let me give you a question I asked you from last night when it comes
right down to it would it be your husband or your children and you said
your children that is not a family that’s a single mother I did not put
those words in your mouth man your word reign supreme I did not put those words
in your mouth you believe that your main issue is that you have children children
have never stopped women from bidding marry that is not your problem all of
the work you’ve done the litany of stuff you ran down
you speak as though the work is complete and you’re ready to move on to the next
thing but the results of your life and your own outcomes show you that you are
not getting that you want credit for intent or work done you can graduate
high school but that does not qualify you to go to Harvard just because you
want it it got earn it the work is not done the
work is not the work is not done that’s not an insult man so when you hear
Fitness alone and Robert and me and multiple people telling you the same
thing and you just like yeah yeah I get it I
get it I get it I get it I get it but I’ve already done let’s keep going to
the next point it’s like you’re in a hurry to get to the next point but the
next point is to be a wife because you value family and I ask you what do you
value about family you just said you just ran down a bunch of buzzwords to
break generational curses and this and that this and that and the stuff that’s
important the character the actual what a man is there for but when I asked you
to do is questions you had no answers well if you have no answers how do you
expect to even attract it and no it’s not up to me to just give you and say
well you completed your therapy here’s the next playbook so when you say that you didn’t have any real direction or or
that nothing was there you’re not ready for what it is you say you want because
if you were you’d attracted I will eventually I have no doubt I just
was trying to get somewhere in sight I know that I’ll eventually find love
regardless of what everyone in the comments what to say okay so is the wow
you just took the path of it’ll happen and forget two people in the comments
you might still be okay well if that’s the case why don’t you have it now what
you’re not what you’re not putting into the fact ma’am is there there’s an issue
with the way you’re communicating with me you’re pushing back you’re arguing
you arguing you’re arguing with everybody you’re in your you’ve got to
do it you got you ready to fight the world when I said in the beginning my
last session ain’t nobody gonna surround a fight with you and argue with you and
you can play this blood-and-guts thing all you want to but no one is believing
what you’re saying and it’s good that you say it but I don’t think you really
believe it yourself because if you did you wouldn’t be here to second go-around
see the truth of the matter is you can’t humble yourself take step to hell you
got a lot of pride because when you talk to a counselor you said it was something
wrong with the counselor there’s always someone with years ago when I was way
younger Robert you’re saying you want sacrifices are things that you’re
willing to give up to meet this man like he can be shorter than you like he can
be less attractive thing you like but you do realize that those are sacrifices
that the man has to give up what are you actually
it’s a sacrifice to be in a relationship with the kind of man that you want give
me those things up I don’t know I don’t fitness the tissue can you just answer
the question she asked instead of asking her I don’t understand the question hold
on let me reframe it we reframe it you’re making compromise on your list
mm-hmm with me what did you ask what is what is she willing to sacrifice to get
what she what did you want to know what is what does he get yes the thing about
it is when people were saying that she was watching everything it’s the fact
that she’s willing to go with the less attractive man that’s not it really a
sacrifice for her are you as a person that you would have to give up that’s
really you know you accepting a lower man like if something is always about
your partners of what you’re willing to accept on their shortcomings but what
about you that you’re actually willing to give up like are you willing to give
up more custody with your children are you willing to give up the fact that
he’ll be your children without you stepping in like what are you willing to
give up of your control and power over everything that’s going on now kind of
answer that one girl she brought that up and running to to answer that yesterday
I see I don’t have the option of giving up custody they’re not they’re barely
involved now so that’s not option how dumb am I want to be clear what I just
heard did you say it you don’t have the option of giving up custody now I just
wanna be clear right right I don’t not at this time
it possibly could change maybe because they fluctuate with their relationships
but at this time no no no not sure so let’s move there to the side I also
asked you about discipline your boy is into that your boys seven years old he’s
into the trouble use Jason Alastair and Minister promised a unit
I asked you about the discipline and there’s Polo’s I told you I would be
okay with his wedding you would be okay okay at what point would you okay see
what you getting is from people is that you’re not really willing to give up
anything because whether it’s the demand that demanded that one hotel man man the
man that wanted to marry you several years ago who asked you to gave up
custody why why did you not just do it then was it still not an option to give
up the children because that’s not you said last night well my children was
smaller than India there’s no way I would’ve made that sacrifice with my
kids being that young and I’m not okay okay there you go
that was the point she was also you make that was the point
well that was five years ago so what cute was two and a kid was five and
you’re not talking about giving him up no man yeah no he just let me finish
we’re not talking about giving him up to wolves or the state of foster care we’re
talking to their fathers you want you what it comes across as though ma’am
it’s all about you a man should come provide for you you want the family you
want this and you’re not really willing to sacrifice anything but a few
superficial things like height and looks and something like that but the big
stuff anything besides height height in words that’s one thing you guys are
trying to make me pal that’s what we’re not that’s not that’s what we’re not
going to do no one’s making you sound anyway you’ve had plenty of time to
expect to talk and say who you are and what it is people are just responding to
okay okay what are you willing to sacrifice this just you’ve got really to
sacrifice a lot I can’t think of all of them on my hand independent living we
can talk about it I’m saying that I’m open I don’t understand why that party
comprehend my god here’s why it’s hard to copy here’s why it’s hard to
comprehend oh because saying you’re open is vague it’s just me thank you and when
you’re out here on the dating market when men have options you have options
you gotta already know the kind of man you’re talking about you want you better
bring it real clear what he’s getting he’s not going to just he doesn’t have
to sit around and be vague with you this is why you need to know the answers to
these questions because you’re trying to sell yourself out there to the men
you’re interested in you can trap women control access to sexual control sexual
access men control access to relationships you don’t have the kind of
leverage you think you have and it’s shown so you need to answer these
questions so you know what kind of man Teva position yourself in front of and
it needs to be clear to that man so he doesn’t have to do all this dadgum hard
work to be and fine I will be honest I think probably wouldn’t maybe you guys
are sensor for me and the fact that I honestly up for this drama you keep it
real one of our only flaws is the fact that I have children I feel like I’m a
great partner I feel like I’m a quality woman I’m a great catch in all other
areas and I think that’s part of the reason why I’m just kind of like yeah
that’s yes sir but I attract certain men because I’ve got a lot of great things
going Robert we are G so you’re telling me
that you as a woman just because you got kids you are not viable yes or no are
you telling me you have no value I’m not saying no I know no I’m not saying I
have no value but I’m saying that’s the only thing that takes me points down
I’m literally been told directly we get there right now I’ve been told
that verbatim well here’s the saying you claim that you are only attractive man
that either don’t have true the one half true but you talk about every other
woman that you know is able to attract me and whispered or without you
what’s your problem look.we one of the things that we need to stop doing like I
said before we need to live in reality the reality is you are a you are a
single mother ok that’s a fact you if you feel like you want a certain type of
man you have to give off that value that you are not a liability you are an asset
you telling me that you’re an asset by your conversation lets me know that you
are a liability because even with your own children with your own children you
are willing to give up custody of your own children just to be able to have a
certain lifestyle do you understand what she’s not she’s not willing to she’s not
willing to give up I said there are three options I said that you can either
deal with the dominant kind of man is gonna be able to make the kind of money
you make but he’s gonna have to have full control because those kind of men
don’t just sit around and play beta Melrose you can wait til your children
are out of the house or you could do what you were asked to do five years ago
which you turn down is to send their children off with their father the boy
honestly I believe the boy should be with his father after seven years old
anyway because no woman can raise a man the girl you’ve already had ten years
with her let’s have the next eight with her father I mean it’s not like you’re
talking about going up and traveling the world so and we’re not talking we’re not
talking about is some flightiness I’m talking about a man steps to you like
the other man said I will marry you and do all these things and you said no you
do it which is cool yeah okay okay man go ahead and make the kill point because
I’m a just say right now you may not be able to hear it now but nobody’s
painting narrative don’t want to believe that I can excuse me excuse me man when
did you ever hear those words come out of my mouth well you well I feel like
you basically said that when you’re like tell me how tell me tell me what I tell
me what I said what imply that you were not a good catch please please please do
not tell me what you feel tell me what I said what I feel you’re saying that I’m
that there’s things about knowing that it stopped you from getting the man that
I want you’re saying that I need to make some sacrifices I’m going to mute you I’m going to mute
you first we’re gonna take them one by one
I said that they’re things stopping you from getting what you want is that true
or false my children yeah but you’re making a comment other thing is they’re
true so yes they’re things stopped you from getting what you want that’s true
you need therapy that’s not an insult is there true or false see this is what happens you just throw
something out there and then when I’m asking you to stand
out and justify it you can’t you just want to know at the mouth talking about
you you trying you trying to say I’m not a good catch
I said the very things you said you said these things are keeping you back so all
right there we are that’s some other people
are gonna come in the stream you’re welcome to come in Roxie I’m gonna cycle
up out Robert if you don’t mind if you don’t mind dropping off Fitness mom you
don’t mind dropping off I’m going to let end people from another part mr. prime
what’s going on Marcel is prime once you hear the other night Jason
alastair we’re gonna let people in first up first first person to speak gets in
all right so go ahead mr. prime Marcel is fine
hey Samuel hey Kevin what’s going on so weren’t you here last
what you here a couple of nights ago galaxy g7 whatever no harm no foul I
just what was that was that you yeah that was me okay so we didn’t
necessarily he was talking okay so I know exactly I know exactly what I know
exactly where the conversation you know you are go ahead okay so my question is
that so I I woke up to one and I talked and conversate but it seems like not
that it doesn’t go well but it doesn’t go outside oh just friendly conversation
why do you want my help why do you want my help because when I called last week
I really wasn’t it wasn’t anything personal I was just asking you a
question no no I released I released my relisting
to my shows three times three times oh yes I also have an editor so here’s the
thing why do you want my help because last time we spoke I didn’t know what I
was talking about I actually had to end up disconnecting you why do you want my
help because it’s not something that I’ve heard before but okay why do you
want them okay you insult you were insulting argumentative combative let me
to let me bring you up to it let me school you on something or whatever
that’s Talent you just kind of how you ended it I know who you are and you
think you just call back oh don’t but I didn’t just call back and you call back
into the show you want something I don’t mind you call them back and wanting
something but you think that’s how you deal with somebody you just because this
all has a relative is all has import this all has relevance you don’t think
there’s something you should be saying something you should have said if you
want something from I didn’t I didn’t when I called I didn’t want something
from you want something from me I don’t mind that what but you don’t get a
chance see this is what this is what you guys like you the one is that you are
the lone wolf the guy the in sale that thing you
under you have no social skills you apologize to people when you offend them
just because it doesn’t because you don’t it doesn’t make sense to you you
have to deal with people people don’t receive you alright there’s something
something going on with the way you communicate that’s off-putting to people
I asked you how this conversation flowed and you were sarcastic you were
sarcastic and you’re an asshole about it I know who I’m talking to and then you
come on today you know you say you know what we got off to a rocky start my bad
whatever you just say go right into what you need what doesn’t know you
understanding and that’s something disconnect here man I just ask you why
do you want my information why do you want mine why do you want my advice I have offended you know honestly if I
have I don’t take this stuff personally but I’m just listening to somebody dude
you have a problem building rapport with people you were you weren’t you attended
to be sarcastic and offensive but because that’s the way you used to
communicate with people you have whatever is going on with you whether or
not you built this shield up you basically come down to the fact that
people who are socially awkward or introverts or not social didn’t get that
way they’re responding and I’m like no they get to choose their response you’ve
chosen the responses you have and you get the outcomes not a victim
you’re not a victim you get to pick so please get to please get to so just
get the best it’s get to the point what is it that can help you with because I
got other people in and in no offense with the way you talk is slow and broken
and it’s kind of hard to follow I was listening I was listening to what
you were saying but again with what you were saying okay so what can i what do
you want for what do you need from me okay it’s the approach the approach yes
okay how tall are you 5 5 5 5 yeah how much do you weigh about 200 5 foot 5
turn 2 pounds um how old are you 28 28 and how would you say you look from a
facial standpoint not bad okay not bad and this because it does have import did
you go to college yes you graduated with a green what no I didn’t graduate
okay that’s right you’re still in school so you’re 28 or 20 you’ve been in school
for two years and that’s why I asked you what do you do between 18 and 26 and
this one you got an attitude so 535 200 pounds the approach well you
got to pick a struggle so I already automatically you’re you’re
short and you’re and you’re overweight you’re gonna have to be charismatic
charming funny to overcome that with most women cuz they’re gonna see your
height in your weight or I probably just need to show that show that you probably
do it or I say or I probably just need to show that side of me that humor
probably do you don’t come across as a
particularly funny guy mmm well I’ve caught in to this concept the second
time I caught it so it’s not really like okay okay so let me so the way I’m
hearing you you know you may be a great guy but initially there’s no spark
it’s very monotone and neewa not that you talk it’s go back elicit our
previous call I asked you how did you think it flowed and there was no no flow
there’s a disconnect so when you approach someone when you approach a
woman let’s just do approach a woman walk up to walk up to me and say what
you’d say you see a beautiful woman go for it you know yeah mm-hmm okay well considering that there isn’t really like
an environment you’re in the mall you’re in the mall you’re in the mall she’s at
the fragrance counter don’t just walk up to her and speak hi that won’t work okay
like that because I don’t have like anything like huh right because she that
like the fragrance counter I mean I yeah but you but you came in and saying hi you gotta work your voice is too high hi
sounds like a nerd women don’t like nerds can you bring your voice down into
a lower octave make eye contact and go as hello
it usually okay well when you when you talk like this nasal through your nose
you’re gonna have to work on the you have to know what you stand to win
me see this is why I said what I said the last time you didn’t want to receive
it and I’m not insulting you this can be you cannot was oh no god I’m a mute you
you don’t listen men who don’t have confidence it shows
in a way we communicate with women and other men
you don’t speak confidently it seems like you’re thinking about every word
you say and that is not flowing in communication you’re going to need to
sit down and talk to someone and work on the way you communicate your body
language your image the way what you wear what fragrance you wear your
haircut your glasses it all matters you don’t have time to make a second
impression Leticia you still here alastair you still here so and there’s a
video I’m going to do tomorrow on how guys today sound like girls and girls
sound like guys we have so many guys today who were talking in their upper
nasal tones and they really come across like this and that has always been
characterized as goofy geeky nerdy then we have so many women today who are
talking you know with me what’s up in a deep voice that edited it uh those two
things are conflict with each other now there are tricks that every man can do
to learn how to get into his deeper tones you have to get closer to somebody
you have to take a deep breath you have to project from your don t and from your
abdomen and speak but I became a sales person without my sales training and
professional speaking there’s a way to learn how to project your voice but this
is not an insult if you walk up to a girl I’m saying hi it’s a rap does that make sense yeah that makes
sense okay so what are you gonna do about it interact more like I just I just gave
you all those things to do and your option is to not do that not just well I
want you to just follow the advice I gave you don’t you do what I what I
advised because what it’s not about interacting more it’s about interacting
though right way all right guys I’m gonna leave it open we’re gonna have the
next 30 minutes we’re just gonna have open our so everybody how anybody wants
to come up and chitchat any questions I don’t think we really got anywhere on
what means to be able to tell the truth I don’t know style profile what’s going
on see this is the reason why you got your PhD see a lot of people are never
gonna capture the essence of what you bring but that’s not everybody’s gonna
be the top tier well hey Roxy I need you to get on girl
wait a minute see the problem with what it is is that people are very delusional
where they stand extra regular type Negros but then gets
mad but then get mad how you want to expect something in the world that’s
greater than you that you cannot provide yourself mm-hmm
no sense does that make their the dr. Kevin well it does and I must say this
as a teacher I I’m leading with humility empathy and things like that because
there was a time when I was very unsure awkward you know I had to learn that Oh
see I can I can deal with sighs to a defensive or hesitant because
it’s it’s it’s uncomfortable but what I can’t deal with those guys who don’t
want to try anything now because that’s that’s that won’t you won’t get anywhere
you just won’t get anywhere latisha you’re still on here and you can speak
up – latisha if you want – look man don’t look at what’s going on in a chat
room and no one was trying as no one is trying to paint you in a picture or tear
you down trust me boo let me throw that way and
I’ll honestly out well let me can i exploit let me let me say something to
you okay let’s take this away from you and I because that that’s that’s Tony he
down are you do you have any friends or family members who have been either
alcoholics or drug addicts oh yeah definitely
okay when I did interventions that was a show called intervention and when
someone is having an intervention you see some of the most because because
it’s like they have to really deal with it’s like okay we got to stop this and a
lot of us in our own lives we need interventions I did I needed someone who
had needed friends to tell me man unit bullshit you we all need people around
us to tell us uncomfortable truths but that flies in the face of friendship
friends hide uncomfortable truths about each other that’s true boss we couldn’t
be friends because you know we all got things we don’t like about each other
but there’s a 29 year old woman you know that this weather you can put your
finger on it or not whether you feel like me or anybody else’s is is right or
not that when it’s when you’re in bed by yourself
you know there’s something just not it’s just not quite meshing up right and it’s that nagging thing that lets
you know that something needs to be addressed when I do interventions it’s
always amazes me how angry and violent and I remember as a counselor you’re not
dealing with the person you’re dealing with the drug so they call you all kind
of things they do all kind of stuff but then they go to read they go to detox
come out seven days the thirty days later after them drugs are today system
and the very people they cussing and fussing at man I’m so sorry
I was fucked up and can’t you forgive me and it’s like man no heat no judgment
because I don’t take it personally it was the drug well a lot of us on drugs a
lot of us on drug called chaos a lot of us in the black community are addicted
to chaos that’s probably like this one to show scandal was so popular when
Olivia said I want painful traumatic this that crazy love and do say love is
not supposed to be painful but our first relationships no father
fractured with mother we weren’t planned we had to live with less I mean all kind
of things that we just had to learn how to navigate through which became our
norm but we know it’s not normal just like you say back when your own college
campus you felt embarrassed being pregnant because ninety nine percent of
women on campus we’re just thinking about the future you are I already have
my kid but you know basically what I’m saying yeah no all right a big part of
healing is forgiveness gotta forgive yourself true for all that for all that
stuff we got to forgive ourselves but then we got to do the work I mean you
can’t unmake them babies but let me tell you I married a woman with a child women
single mothers get married her day I’m never gonna sit back and tell a
woman or personally that nothing’s possible it just how likely is it and
the more any of us have to heap stuff on our plate the less likely somebody’s
going to want to take that and eat it as a meal whatever your dish is it needs to
be appetizing for the people you’re trying to feed it’s not in trust
that’s very true that our own self be true people need to ant that where we
are in life there’s a very good indicator of what’s right and what’s
wrong now there’s an old saying an old preacher once told me for visit problem
promised provision how you look at your problem determines how long you stay
within it and then determine what hope it’s out there and a lot of people don’t
understand that concept because we don’t think we have a problem the first thing
of roof acceptance and strength is to understand there’s a problem take
weightlifting for example you don’t go in the gym start to lift 400 pounds
right you’ll tear your ligaments in your arms apart you’ve got to start small
until the weight starts feeling lighter mm-hmm they were problems it’s gonna do
those problems and those issues are gonna feel heavy at first but each
growing data will be lighter lighter so you don’t even feel it anymore and what
happens to a lot of people you got to be honest with yourself you gotta see where
you are in your life accept the things you cannot change and change the things
you cannot accept Brynna d prayer oh yes strength accept
the things I cannot change courage to change the things I can and wisdom to
know the difference exactly and see this is awful lot of
people out there they don’t know the difference and when you’re trying to put
yeah and to teaching people the difference
and to humble themselves they think that you’re bad-mouthing them because they’re
so used to people kissing their ass about information anything like about me
because I know Leticia Leticia let me go here officer Faulkner does not he does
not throw subliminal shots to sneak this if you had a problem but but I’m glad
you said something see i’ma tell you what your biggest issue is you take
everything so personal I’ve been listening to you for two straight days
this is the first day I actually said something directly to you you think that
all working against you when somebody’s going out of their way to tell you
something that will better you in life later on starting now
Mike Tyson said it best not everybody who’s against you is your enemy and that
everybody was for you as your friend let me let me let me put a pause right here
petition petition yes let me ask who in your family life can you count on I mean
who’s got your ultimate back never gonna let you fall I don’t trust anybody to
have my bag okay okay have you ever had that kind of trust for anybody no never
have alright so what the officer Faulkner do say it has a lot of import
yeah you got your you got your hands up and you ready to fight the entire world
at all times do you do you make do you make room for the fact that is an
unhealthy way of approaching life even though you feel like it’s kept you safe it is okay I wouldn’t say that I feel
like I’m it’s not that I’m fighting the world it’s a matter of let’s be real
here we are on the internet and this is my real actual name so I’m not going to
let people say things about me that are not true
have to be put out in the public sphere so yes I’m definitely going to defend my
character if somebody is saying something that’s not true and you have
influence and I do care about European and I know there’s a lot of people who
do so I’m not going to sit here and just lay down and let whatever be fit and
it’s completely inaccurate so defending myself you know making me a fighter did
you answer my question did you answer my question I guess not
can you do that please can you tell me the question again okay do you make room
for the possibility that the way you go through life with your hands up
while it may have kept you safe does not make you happy yeah I mean I don’t think
that’ll happen okay so go ahead I didn’t I don’t think anybody wouldn’t think
that that’s the happiest way to live but I don’t think that I’m just fighting all
the time I think you’re just getting that in myself right I mean you by
yourself right now we’re talking we’re getting somewhere
you don’t feel like you’re fighting all the time do you make room for the
possibility you’ve been fighting so long that you wouldn’t know the difference okay so so when I asked you that
question and I just asked you you’re you’re you went all the way pass my
question there wasn’t intent to trigger or insult to I’m gonna take on everybody
because my real name is out here and I’m not going to let anybody Punk me I’m a
defend mine they want me and that not where I’m coming I use my own words but
there was this would you admit that that was the sentiment
because it’s not about it’s not about that I am which ma’am okay ma’am what
you basically said was I’m going to fight to defend myself if somebody’s
coming at me some kind of way that was the overall sentiment is that true or is
it accurate or not I don’t like I don’t like that verbs
because that’s not the energy of it it’s more about this is my I care about my
reputation just as much as you care about yours so I’m not comfortable with
people saying things that aren’t true it’s not about watching had an
understanding man but you’re not understanding ma’am is you responded to
something I did not even say like Caprica died no no no man let me do this
you always fondant you responded with a would have a counter punch and a punch
wasn’t even thrown I’m responding you’re saying a phrasing that I just don’t
agree with it’s not about it’s not the energy that you’re putting behind your
words that’s not what it man you have not even ma’am I had to repeat the
question because you didn’t even hear it see let’s go back to what just happened
I asked you a question and you responded to to either what you thought I said or
something that you’re looking at you responded to not what I said you
responded to something else to the point to where I had to slow down and ask you
can you respond to my question you said I didn’t even know it forgot it for a
second because I was addressing okay oh there you go there you go you were I was
talking to you but you were responding to something you thought you or some
other guy said but you directed it to me that’s why I said ma’am the second
question I was like do you make room for the fact that you’ve been fighting for
so long you’ve always had even don’t trust anybody you always had to have
your own back you won’t you know finding is what you know do you know how to not
fight and just be peaceful and in in cooperative and
just put the capital is this there’s a time for war and there’s a time for
peace can you put the sword and shield down see I don’t want the kind of peace
that allows people to disrespect me that’s not the peace that I desired her
okay so there you go there’s there and that’s where the therapy comes in
because see winning the war is easy the governing is hard getting or getting
someone to be interested in having sex with you is easy but being a
relationship was hard that’s the piece normal relationships are not fraught
with fighting it’s compromises it’s that kind of stuff
and you fight you fight you fight you fight you fight because what you
basically said is if I am fighting if somebody’s gonna get over on me and
that’s kind of like when another guy said the other day you can’t when people
who don’t trust people who have fractured family lives you said you want
to break those curses mm-hmm you could say what okay when are you going to stop
fighting I don’t even know how to answer them
honestly something-something you made it something I would suggest you need to
think about Gordon sorry Gordon I’m on a mutant you Gordon because no one’s
attacking you we’re just talking and while your real
name may be out here everybody else get stuff going on in our life once this
show is over a couple of days they’ll move on to something else Alastair go ahead well hey what’s up
what would he got for me hey can you hear me
yes I can all right so basically my name is Alastair blackmail from Tampa Florida really my problem is as I mentioned cuz
I smoked a lot of weed and I would say the majority of my money goes to pot
basically and I feel like I’m not living normally live I live in my mom which is
pretty pretty shitty how don’t you live with your mom yes and I are your periods
black yeah they’re black but it’s I don’t have parents I just have one I
live in my mom you live with your mom yeah and your father’s nowhere around
no he’s in Guyana okay sorry you’re 22 I’m 24 24 how do you what do you how do
you make your money for the pot um well usually what I do don’t give me here
book answer what do you work I currently don’t have a job people just basically
fire me up okay so you live it down what mom you don’t have a job so you can’t
miss the most you don’t even support your own weed
head yes all right which is how and how many children is your mother here um she
had five five of us are you the youngest yeah I’m the youngest right how does she
um she’s uh I think she’s sixty-five she had me when she was 41
okay and I believe she has no boyfriend a relationship no okay so your son
husband uh sorry I didn’t hey you’re a son husband
that’s the only way that’s the only way a woman would allow her 24 year old
unemployed son to smoke weed in her house or in her presence is if she has
no life you’re a son husband interesting I never heard of such a term before
well well son husband means that if you left she’d have no life she don’t know
what at times well she’d have no one to talk to nobody because and also if she
had a boyfriend he would put you out yeah because it’s really rather
disgusting you’d be 24 years old and unemployed so so here’s the thing where
was the last time you had a girlfriend um probably probably since I don’t think
I’ve ever really had wouldn’t be honestly right so you smoked out staying
at home if mom were to be unfortunately we’re not putting out there but if mom
were to be taken away in a fatal accident tomorrow how would you survive
Oh how would you pay next how would you pay
next month’s rent or the mortgage and I don’t know and that’s the part that kind
of stresses me out because there’s no fucking stress we’re not yes you’re not
stressed no no no no we’re not go said I can make you a special victim are you
kidding me both your legs work both your arms work yes we’re not no no not gonna
do that you’re 24 it’s not the able-bodied man I mean job applications
you put in this week zero but I there’s no but there’s no but there’s no but
because what you’re gonna do want to do is somebody to feel guilty for you sorry
for you I got anxiety I’m depressed whatever man no see if I were to talk to
your mother you’d be put out the house by in this week
oh why though like why do Americans think like why because your fucking
waist dude 24 years old living in your mama’s house
smoke and weed no job alastair you need
you need gentle boys like guys like you need to go take your ass straight to the
middle I will put you straight in the army recruiter tomorrow you would be out
of her house if I had anything to do about it you will be gone
Marines you are not being made a man and you need to go someone needs to make a
man out of you cuz you’re too old I’ll get to you in just a second you have
from 18 to 23 to figure stuff out here 24 the world don’t owe you nothing no
job smoke we never met your mama no plans yeah I know it’s it’s pretty
pathetic there’s two jobs that I wanted to do I really wanted to get into like
web development but then I don’t care what you want to do man I don’t even
give a shit about your fantasies Thank You Lance to Home Depot or Lowe’s and
get a day laborer job I don’t want to hear this bullshit from you what you
want to do I mean about what you want to do you need to do what you need to do
get out of your mother’s house yes I appreciate the realness end of the
bluntness I mean but seriously did somebody have to tell you that you
should be taking care of yourself um no no one should have to tell me that but I
don’t know why I’m not taking care of myself honestly I don’t know why I’m
leaving like this because mama because mama because Mama’s made it too soft for
you maybe there’s no maybe to it brother
you’re not there you’re not special this is the carb this happens over and over
and over again why don’t you go to the military I think I’d rather be a truck
driver than they go into the military real cool why don’t you go to the
military because the military is a waste of life I mean all right what the fuck
did you say we you know my thing is the military’s a waste of life right now
you’re doing what you’re doing is wasting your life that is some of the
most arrogant well I suppose in subjective
now I think people join the military when they don’t know what they want to
do with their lives so I suppose that situation now yeah but see see you gotta
understand you gotta be a man and stop putting butts on the end of your
citizens it’s either go or no-go like the military says did you pass let go
hold on that’s like I don’t what do you want Marcellus so so the conversation
come on well for one what what I for one is so you said you didn’t know what to
do yeah oh no no you’re not in a position to given anybody advice what do
you look dude Charles it was one way I’m seriously all joking aside man talking
to you sounds like I’m talking to a junior high school I don’t think you
realize that 24 years old your mother is sheltering you from the
real world you need to learn how to become a man you don’t need just a job
you need a moral compass and some character that’s what the military will
help you be because all you’ll be if you start driving a truck cause you’ll still
be you’ll be smoking you won’t even keep the truck driving job because you’ll
smoke up the weed that is that is true I mean maybe I guess the military would be
a pathway to help me like quit for a while but I don’t know I feel like
that’s such a radical decision to make in my life
oh no well you feel feel like a piratical do what you feel huh
feel like what we do see what you only want to do is you want to sit up under
mama and that’s cool bro you want to sit up under mama are you still not I don’t
Pam I know Fanta notes are you still a virgin
oh hello Patera okay okay you look great I don’t but but you’re at a point to
where there’s no more playing anymore at 23 years old it starts to be serious
you can’t hang out with the people you went
to high school with it’s time to be in real life I understand to protect the
fort that’s what it’s all about you have to protect Gordon what’s going on it was
going how you doing how you doing mr. mr. Sam get on in thank you I’ve been
listening to you for a while now and I finally got up off my ass I lost 50
pounds and my tongue went through the roof and then I can talk to anybody and
now women come up to me before I was scared to walk up to them but once I got
that confidence in myself I’m just killing it right now good man I hear
some energy and some pep in your voice oh yeah absolutely
that’s a good thing it’s better to be this way than what it was before right
oh absolutely all right so what’s what’s what’s the
next five years looking like for you uh well right now I’m working on one I want
to really want to be a landlord so what I did was I bought a house about a year
ago five bedroom house I’m I’m in Washington DC
all right in Maryland right outside of Washington DC now I’m renting out rooms
in my house right now so right now okay no ability good Airbnb
no not here being be just month two months a month MOCA what’s with what
people rent on my basement or two more bedrooms so right now I’m been on my
credit and all that stuff okay you’ve been single by no but you got a
but you got a plan oh yeah oh yeah cool man
well that’s what I like to hear I like to hear men who are doing something
taking take a direction when you you plan a binding here are the properties
oh yeah that’s why that’s why I got people in here now so I can I can get
this mortgage down and all right and you know take a loan out on what I have now
after I get this mortgage down a little bit then do you do do you do the work
who does the work on the properties for no I do
all the work myself oh that’s what I’m that’s what’s up that’s what’s so that’s
what’s up man well so five years now you you’ll be well off man that’s what I’m
praying for a man you know what helps with prayer 60 80 hours a week work
well that’s trick some make some videos about showing you rehabbing these
properties and things start off with vlog man you know show some pictures man
that means it was possible we decided to take responsibility for you almost
definitely thanks Gordon I appreciate it Robert all right Tee tee waters is that
misty yes go ahead what’s going on teeth I just have a question guys if you like
this going on man I’m gonna need at least five people to put a dollar in
super chair put a dollar in there man come on man we got good work going on
come on to you what’d you get I recently started dating again mm-hmm
I have I’m finding that guys that I’m dealing with or intimidated by my
resources and my friends told me I need to look more pore over that core app or
or like I need to look like um you need to look more
oh okay yeah okay I don’t I don’t want to have to do that is that really
necessary and I do want to say I am older I am I
am a closer to your age so they’re saying well you know sometimes older
women have to do extra when they get that bit well I don’t know what they
don’t know what so I gotta have some questions I was City you in um I’m near
Hershey Pennsylvania yes okay is that New Philadelphia Pennsylvania
Philadelphia Pittsburgh what I’m not like almost smack dab in the middle
nothing nothing’s really here okay so problem number one
geography yeah how would I know said about a my age okay
how tall are you 5 or how much but dress size between the 8 and 10 so it was
mostly 8 okay so and you’re looking to just date what are you looking for you
looking for a long-term relationship right now I’m not sure about marriage
again but maybe your long-term and then if it turns into that so you have been
married yes okay children yes okay right no they’re all adults I just had my last
one just graduated and your master okay cool so we got two things you’re five
foot four you’re 18 that’s acceptable um you live in Hershey mm-hmm but you said
guys are intimidated by your research you want to share with us what do you do
for a living or about how much you make just kind of so we’ll have a ballpark or
do we talk about you well it’s not so much my way just like I make about 70
but it’s not so much that I’m a widow my husband left me comfortable so I have
you know a nice car and I have a huge house and that like I dated I started
dating okay let me do it let me just stop it right here problem sounds like
is Hershey because if you got a nice car in a nice house and you’re a widow and
you make about 70 that’s balling in Hershey but it’s right around
average uh in Atlanta Brooklyn Chicago you know what I mean
so you’re in a blue-collar town there’s known for for chocolate right
slim pickins slim pickins berry so this is where the women had to be real if you
really looking for the kind of man a higher caliber man who wouldn’t be moving is moving is something that all
of us have to get realistic with or or some sort of long-distance situation
ship but that has a clock on it too right right but her.she her.she is the
problem more than anything else what’s going on RJ go ahead go ahead
she bounced out doo-doo-doo-doo-doo T you bounced down I’m still here I think
here we go so your kids are gone I mean but why are you in Hershey are you
civically involved I mean are you a part of local chamber they have an active
social life where you get out and do stuff well I’m trying to do that now
that’s after my husband passed away I just kind of build into the raising my
kids and getting them over that right all right I’m really not I’m trying to
get out there but let me go ahead give you the hard love part there’s no trying
you just get your butt outside the house and get in your car and you go well is
there a try there’s local meetup groups there’s a local Chamber whatever you do
whatever your profession is that has to be said that there’s a local church you
can volunteer you can go do a Habitat for Humanity there’s plenty of stuff to
get out and do there’s no try we do let’s see the go and no go there’s no
try okay I mean that’s this is real we don’t know
one come knock on your door and be like hey
I’m bow ass well most people don’t want to leave their hometown that’s a big
move but why not make the life you’re living in Hershey where you least have
relationships with people I mean I get that you put poured into your children
they’re gone where’s your social connectedness in
your own town ah I just have a few friends that you know other than that I
tag along with them sometimes but I don’t really are you married
yeah my friends are married oh yeah that’s not no no no no no no there’s
nothing single people need to stop imposing upon their married friends this
is this no not not this is this is just about you but married folks and single
folks I mean I’m sure they don’t mind but listen what I’m saying there cooking
class is going on tomorrow night there’s salsa classes there’s line dancing
there’s art and palate there’s there’s all kind of stuff going on don’t sit in
the house get out of that house I do do a lot I do I’ll cut up an introvert so
I’m working on that well here’s the hard part you don’t have a lot of it we don’t
we’ve got 20 I know I forget to introvert and is not comfortable I mean
if you want something different you gonna have to get out there I know I
haven’t thinking about moving to a bigger city but I don’t know if that’s
even going to do anything I mean when I don’t know anybody it’s kind of hard for
me to put myself out there it’s not my personality I’m just I gotta get over
the introvert I guess many people introverts but I’ll give you my point I
mean you should like you should like the life you’re living
whether you’re dating or not I do I um I like it I’m trying to find myself
again cuz I don’t I don’t really know who I am else I have a wife and the
mother so that’s where I’m trying to find myself again you’re gonna find it
in your closet you’ll find it you’ll find it the more you’re out doing stuff
you’re right you’re right yeah hey you’re shy are you pay to another
channel t we trying to help we’re trying to work on this kind of stuff will we
all get there but keep us posted man it’s sending me some shock all right the
dish to you see Letitia did you do Leticia used to here she’s still here
yes I’m still here do you hear how that last call went yeah are you involved in
your local area do you have a life that you like um I
would say that my life is pretty busy I’m working toward certain goals so I
wouldn’t say that I have as much pleasure and I’d like to have kind of a
weird here’s the thing this new age parenting my view on me either
look you got two kids you can you can be busy all day long but what you got a
happy mother happy kids and it sounds to me like you got a lot of stuff
but when the word happy is foreign to many of us something that you might want
to do is just write down what happiness is to you and this is foreign to a lot
of us because even me when I went to counseling I had shut myself completely
after where I didn’t even have an emotional language you asked me what the
how I felt and I’ll tell you what I think I had no real descriptive language
and the funny thing is the more you get in tune with like I said put your sword
down put the shield down put the warrior princess thing to the side okay top man
I mean I don’t know if you watch TV shows a TV show called Vikings there’s a
time for that but honestly thank you you feel better off when you know you have
other coverage I mean at 29 you said you’ve had more options than the average
bear what’s going over Sean yeah you bilikiss know I’m going to call him and
I’ve been listened to for a while man let’s go man
you know about taking some of that advice giving them uh know not too long
ago I think my wardrobe up I noticed that I got a totally different vibe
attracted and um and I mean it really is amazing I’m 41 so you know I started to
have 50 me coming to my head like can’t be dressing like my seventeen yo cuz I’m
single father I had to change it up and I mean I mean night you date okay two
hundred so five two with deep Barry White voice man you should be cleaning
up should be cleaning that oh man I do clean I do make sure you make sure you
should make sure you keep them shoes now you know get toned up you can still
you know 200 you know believe it or not believe it in that cab of him I’m
actually very tall you know I go to the gym on a regular basis one money cool
but here’s what I want you I need you to make sure them shoe stay shines keep
them shoot reason issues and make sure choose a dope make sure your jeans fit
well you know jeans should fit no like I said I said I took the advice bag but
you know I have to do you have to work alone every day do you work alone even
su yes I do right yes you know I do have to say I do have to
say the see man that advice about quality over quantity man made amazing
game changes you know a lot of lot of things that I you know a lot of things
that I purchase I see that the difference in the quality but I do
purchase everything that’s a game-changer
I’m glad to hear man is working out man glad to hear you know brothers taking
the advice and is showing dividends keep them keep me posted man keep me posted
well well I have one thing to thing I just put you in go hammer shot clear
repeat the question a lot of people and I had the same problem that I can
recognize a lot of people look at the peopl right next to them and it keeps it
cold extremely small you can tell yourself you know like you know an older
person telling me it’s like a crackhead try to help on a GoSee elevate higher
you know we definitely have to elevate higher now bigger dreams and big goals
are you doing better and the person next to you sometimes you have to borrow me
do it that’s all that I appreciate and that’s enough stomach straining – we got
a dream big we need bigger problem appreciate it we appreciate
what’s going on man J you’re here yeah guys this was a good show you know and
here’s the thing man everyone gets to their point where they get to it
some folks only need one time to hear it and they’re ready
some people gotta keep going back and back and back and back but the trick to
all of us is we gotta keep working at it you know ain’t shit and when I when I
started to humble myself and realize about a lot of stuff there’s like I got
some things I like about me but there’s a lot of stuff about me that I need to
fix anything is we’re all works in progress see when you really get to the
point to where you realize that life is long and we can really affect how we
approach things we can actually draw stuff to us and start taking that
accountability for ourselves we become in more control and then anybody wants
control over their life nobody wants to just feel like they’re like just a
victim to circumstance a chance yeah bigger problems stop comparing myself to
other we all we all are learning man and that’s why you know this kind of thing
this format we’ve just stumbled into it but I think what happens more often or
not is you’re seeing more conversations happen people are looking for answers
people are looking for connections we all got something we can help each other
with so let’s before we get out of here J I don’t hear you latisha did you have
anything you want to say before we get out of here
no that’s putting my shitty I didn’t been listening along you’ve been a
damper here in Denver right how long you been in Denver
Oh owning on most of my life I mean to myself for a little baby
hopped around with I’ve been here for a while now you ever thought about
relocating out of Denver I mean that that Mile High that altitude
yeah what about Texas valid oh okay and you’re six feet which city city
which city would you think for you Houston are Austin
I mean Houston or Dallas I’m thinking $1.00 people let me tell you Dallas I
lived in Dallas with most of my adult life Houston
people it’s more chill you get more genuine stuff in Dallas has a lot of you
got a lot of women and act like biatches and a lot of F boys in Dallas so I live
both now Houston is hot in the mud I mean I’m hot and the humidity is off the
chain but with the new energy economy Houston has evolved quite a bit I used
to be a firm Dallas guy but I got a MIT man Houston has some advantages
especially in the relationship scene there are a couple of people from
YouTube who just said they came back from Dallas and like you know and women
in Dallas got a pretty bad reputation of being biatches so just just heads up and
the thing is I love some Dallas but if I move before I move to Atlanta I thought
about going back to Dallas but uh been there done that but I would definitely
consider getting the hell out of Denver because I know it’s a well one because
it’s a big small town I mean it’s on its own the population here is right around
700,000 so I like that less than a million anyway so like metropolitan and I like being in a
place with the International Airport it’s on the same your land lock I mean
dimmers not bad but you know I like personally is somebody for the Midwest I
like the city that has an NFL NBA Major League Baseball I want all the sports
there but you don’t have the population that’s the thing you don’t have the
population so it’s it’s the same line I put Denver in the same kind of line for
me and I thought about it’s in line with Kansas City st. Louis you know it sits
above a Memphis but I like being in the mix and for somebody who wants to be a
writer a creative center would be would be more beneficial just a mocker you
know maybe not in LA or New York City because those are hard cost of living
just I would just I would just think about because I lived at most of my
adult life I loved it but the thing is a big part of why we think well a big part
of what we do is where we live I mean just just running numbers well how much
money how many people who whatever you know schools where do you want your kids
to go to school what had the best state schools I mean that’s just a bunch of
things you just don’t have to stay stuck in Denver so I’m saying but I’m gonna
get up out of here all right talk to you later Jay what’s going on
how you doing I’m good you wrapping this up what do you got for me yeah we talked
about the four days ago I’m gonna do from Delaware at the community college I
want to work there finding it you know I was talking talking to you
about thinking about going to me unify 14 to an 85-pound guy yep that’s me
mm-hmm but so honestly I don’t like I don’t like you know living this sexless
life honestly but I’m really not I’m really not trying to be a player how can
I go about finding that one woman just to have consistent sex with cuz you know
I’m still just focused on you know my future you know improving myself you
know but I still just want that one female just that I can just sleep with
when I was like what was my advice to you last call I forgot what you said I
don’t know lose some weight or something you said a lot of stuff hmm well going
back to this bitch oh I had one but I listened to it like three or four times
but you don’t remember the advice I gave you I think you said yeah you’re trying
to get free country you want free advice didn’t even send me an email asking me
about consultations yeah I did you think I’m you think it’s funny no I’m just
like he’s still looking for free yeah bro what’s up no yeah I mean you’re the
same guy that told me you’re gonna be get you something in finance and high
value and choosing signals and all you think life is a game and that’s why
that’s the way you come across thinking life is a game it’s a joke and ha ha hee
hee aho and everything there I feel you but you want something out of life what
are you willing to do to get it I’m willing to work hard for it
really yeah absolutely so if you can’t even remember what if you called in to
get my advice but you came in when I showed you yesterday
for two days ago I remember it better than you
yeah I forgot right right I want your coaching and mentorship I’m
not in a great position financially but I want to see if there’s any way you can
work with me nothing wrong with that I wasn’t saying like well I want to do
is become a better man and I think you can help me with that I’m willing to sit
and listen yeah okay but you don’t but okay but
that’s what you need you don’t keep coming back to the food court man I’m
asking for free samples I understand do you really yeah yeah because I’m
saying this not to insult you but I’m I’m teaching right now this is your
attitude your mentality I mean you can actually come across as and do did I
actually think you’re kind of smooth kind of like get over over somebody
kinda nice that’s not what I’m trying to do at all
I like everybody else you know they say you know click on a link if you want
some advice I say people you already had your advice
though you already had an entire call you already said the whole email
are you patron – man I was you were yeah what
we this is like a few months back so watch not give much palette why should I
give you anything immature you’re busy you’re going to school for the finance
why should i why should i what why should I give you anything I’m not I’m
not asked you to give me anything I will just ask for advice you just ask for
advice I just thought anybody can come on click
the link and you know as you’ve already had yours
I mean God I mean Jay do you not understand I mean what did you think you
could just keep getting back in line and I just keep answering the questions yeah
what I what did I tell you what did I tell I told you which this is and I’m
teaching less you young guys you want you trying to finish it
you’re not gonna finesse me I’m good at what I do you sent me an email then you
want a consultation but you’re not even a patron but you’re the same person to
talk about you willing to do the work and you gonna pay you anyway dude nobody
likes a cheap dude nobody likes a dude just trying to get over all them you
didn’t think you could just come up here and get another bite at the Apple you
don’t even do anything for it see this is what you need to understand
while trying to tailor the day the world doesn’t owe you understanding and you’re
going through the world like you want to take just like the conversation said I
want a girl it’s just one-on-one so I can have consistent access to sex
what did she get from you sex god she can get that already here to do two
makes less than a thousand dollars a year I’m a month right yeah yeah you’re
gonna be on some Netflix and chill shit but you ain’t gonna be able to take her
nowhere I do not mean it’s farts what sir once I sell meals for five hours so
me Little Caesars sell pieces for far out of the box we both like
so breathe and let the pigeons go get it or something like it’s nice you know we
can do stuff I could spend time with I just can’t spit a bunch of bread on
there you know say it again we can go Little Caesars we go get stuff for five
hours bingo throw bread to pigeons honestly
most most dude the guy you’re the guy that had the nerve – it was last time
you approach them you said I don’t think you should have to approach beautiful
women I’m a guy that believes in choosing signals and I said no choosing
signals for my alpha males and select guys that ain’t you how tall are you 510
how much you ate ooh 25 cents are you fat so you have a big
dick what how do you not be a big dick like you know if you got a big digging
on me and was a dick there’s a bigger than Amber’s are like so it ain’t that
big so how much you making how much you make less than $1,000 a month ten
dollars an hour so right there see you’re in college finance don’t know
what you’re gonna do five foot ten fat you know you know if you have a big big
and she only get the benefit of it again you’re a virgin or something like that
so now you wanna throw in the fact you’re cheap you’re entitled you think
you can finesse somebody do you trying to be a hustler and you’re not that good
I’m not trying to hustle anybody yeah yeah yeah yeah you’re really go back to
look at the chat room think you’re gonna be able to tell a woman who should have
choosing signals that you’re gonna take her out to feasts and ducks I’ll give
her five dollars man dude please you need to stay far away from women and
get your shit together let me know god I mean I can’t I sit on it for too long
excuse me I mean I can’t keep doing that for too long I don’t have enough you can
always go hire a prostitute you can’t find a prostitute I thought
excuse me I thought you said Delaware wasn’t happening spy
go to Barnes & Noble that’s what you told me the hoes be awesome prostitutes
don’t being born as an oval I saw a challenges they may be in lounges no no
dude what do you you’re getting accepted see
the world has a funny way of giving it your track what you are you can’t find a
prostitute in Delaware I just don’t who knows who that is there might be a
cop or something oh well okay take your chances you don’t have enough you don’t
have enough game off to live to pull oh you can wait till you’re big you could
wait you can week away to your big-time financial analyst make a pretty $5,000
to become high value not alone why do you why do you think is supposed to be
overnight I’m gonna take too long I’m not trying to be no I ain’t trying be
like sleep with a bunch of women I found you feeling like it’s one chick gnarling
oh I don’t have those problems I have for ya know not talking about Chum just
talking about myself I don’t know what I’m telling you you know what I’m
running down to you do is you come off almost like I don’t put this you said you don’t
believe you should have to approach women
you should get users signals why I mean I feel like as men
it’s like listening it’s except the Asian community and the white community
is six million more women than it is man and a black community is two million
more women than it is man we shouldn’t have to approach them they should be
approaching us it’s like yeah absolutely and in other cultures of women are more
interested in black men than other coaches of men or mortgage or interested
in and you know black women you get what I’m saying
yeah I get that you’ve been watched a lot of dating shows okay you got the
numbers down but since there since there’s so many more black women than
black men and since there’s so many non black women who incident black man you
should have no problem what’s the issue but I’m not at the numbers are the
numbers are in your side what’s the problem I don’t know what it is you
don’t know what it is you’re fat lazy you’re fat and you’re lazy and you’re
fat lazy and entitled how about that you mean we can tell ain’t getting no play
oh yeah why should a woman give you choosing
signals I’m decent why should she give you see but you don’t understand his
other side of that the two million more black women in six men all those numbers
are great but guess what they would rather choose they would rather be one
in select metals rotation than your one and only right so why don’t you take
your answer to Jim and shave about a hundred and thirty pounds that’s what
I’m gonna check a doughnut but haven’t you been preaching about women like I’ve
been watching your shows for over three years now you been watching my shows
over three years now but you’re not a patron
I love the patron but you’re not a patron no I’m not nothing right so you
so again your taker dude you’re I mean you’re laughing man
but I’m I’m running down exactly why your dick is dry you’re not a good dude
yeah fuck but watching for three years but
I’m gonna pay you we could talk about these women how they want to it’s the
problem with you guys like guys like you you go to these dating spaces and you
hear about all these you know kill the beta and don’t do this and then approach
a signal but you’re not on these guys levels and you go out there and talk
about everything that’s wrong with the women but then you look in the mirror
and see what’s wrong with you you want something for nothing you don’t even
know what the fuck you up you even can’t even tell me what school you’re gonna go
to you want to go to Michigan and go $80,000 into debt
you got all this stuff going on you’re living in a fantasy world what the
connections in the network you get from going in Michigan is it serious
Michigan is a there’s a very high quality school big money to go so that
everybody goes to the Michigan is flush with the pussy huh everybody went to
every kind of went to Michigan just handsome rotation no no that’s not what
I’m going to Michigan so I can know you I know what you’re saying you still see
everything is about see what it is is just like in your lazy you think you
should be able to argue your way into it I’ll be high valued once I graduate from
Michigan and they certify me as being pre-select once I have somebody dude you
just gonna be a above average earning Intel oh I’m not answer ins Ville
involuntarily celibate you can’t get pussy you can’t even get a prostitute
you heard him say no no you are in when’s the last time you went up to a
woman and talked to drawers off over oh I never done that before
that makes you an in cell is that we in a while and dude shut shut – I’m gonna
hang up on you if you say one more thing you are in are you celibate on purpose yes or no I don’t even know do are you celibate on purpose that
means you got options you can go get laid
now I don’t have options No then you are involuntarily celibate are you serious tell me you’re not an insult again I
can’t I can’t tell you that I’m not gonna say I’m I’m not in that lame group
man and so I’m a little white kids man I’m not like that you’re celibate you
what is in sale mean and voluntary celibate
I know what that it would like no I’m not it is with you and that is what you
are you’re celibate aren’t you a virgin yeah in sales are virgins
but you’re actually you’re a bona fide Insel you’re not even you’re not you
you’re right there with Elliot Roger oh no virgin oh yes oh okay dude what’s the
info shut up I don’t get it shut up because you don’t
want to you think you’re better than you want to do it you a fucking virgin
you’re a virgin a virgin a virgin a virgin and you’re celibate you’re
celibate you’re celibate it’s not your choice you can’t go get any pussy you
can’t find a prostitute you can’t you couldn’t I get pussy if it’s a if it had
to save your life you’re a virgin and you’re involuntarily celibate you’re an
in cell you are a fucking charter member of the do please this dude listen to
this delusion this dude actually thinks he’s a shit stop listening to biggie
smalls and I was like dude you’re fat in cell and this don’t actually think
he’s simple nighty so I’m not warned in layman’s way boy yes and you and you
laugh just like an in cell I’m an insult just cuz I walk around and look like see
you’re the worst County in cell cuz you look at other in sales to think I’ll
them Goofy’s do his leg do that to take your dick out and you just as dry as
there is you watch just as much point of you jack up just like them you guys 0 0
0 game 0 0 0 shots talking to women 0 you and you and Mike most in sales you
long for a relationship let me let you in on a secret right now you are a beta
male in sale you are beta in sale this is not an insult that’s because just because you don’t
look at yourself you’re you’re 300 pounds we’re almost 300 pounds see what
I get from you is you think you you probably look better than the average do
you you may have a little bit of hood swag or something see I’m not good at
all alright you made yourself into your
front because you don’t sound like that nerdy kind of guy you can probably dress
like you know not goofy or lame but the net-net of it
this is what you are and you want to get to talk about what you’re not due to the
point where I’m not gonna do it really you’re not them do what’s
different about you then the guys you’re talking about what’s different about you I just that
dude that you show on your on your channel the in cell Duke I’m nothing
like that that’s skinny one you know who I’m talking about so one picture
nothing like that what do you like I mean I’m jolkona me not to do that not
to be what I’m a cool guy like I can you can have a time arrogant and not to be
arrogant I don’t mean to be a guy you’re a cool guy does it helped you get and it
helped you get anything in life other than friendzone oh I never got friends
on before what is friend zone friend zone it’s
windy when you you know hopefully try to pursue something and like pursue
something with a what a feedback yeah yeah were you worried from what’s what
city are you from from woman to Delaware you from Wilmington or from Newark
Delaware I live in Wilmington Delaware okay yeah dude you’re I’m just not
trying to be insulting do but five foot ten three hundred pounds you’re fat in
self and your virgin yeah and you want to sit around I was like I’m not goofy
I’m a cool dude okay you may not you may not think you’re so you may not be as
you may not be a socially awkward and borderline but anyway dude you got more
issues going on then I can shake a stick it and I’m talking to you because I’m
gonna get my money out of this this is this is this is what so many of you
young you young virgin in so late bloomers you in massively entitled
you’re deluded you don’t look at the world through a rational
if this is why you’re in the position your focus should be on how to get into
Michigan but anyway and I will be an honest dude most in cells have gonna
have a better luck and get will have more luck getting out of this position
in you because you actually got a lot of got them arrogant to me to be the answer
oh I’m not those dudes okay but for somebody’s been following me for years
there’s not a patron here’s what you don’t do please don’t call me again one
free advice and thought you want something from me you want something
from me you do it the right way can you do that yeah I got you man alright see
it that’s a great book into this to this call the delusion I’m not this I’m not
that if we don’t get to people don’t get to what really is going on how can you
get any better you said I never heard of area getting too old man they’re all
over the place the ones of LA from New York
I want that New York kind of attitude cerebral of mine that New York area cuz
I got that New York kind of you know that swag kind of thing and the problem
is it’s like all social media has made it to where people can fake normal it’s
like you can sell wolf tickets I’m not as bad it’s not that bad okay and it’s
like okay if I can if I can win the argument it doesn’t change the reality
I think one of the best things we could do for relationships today is if mobile phone the providers mobile if all
of a sudden if they started charging 900 dollars a month to access pornographic
sites cut off free porn and this problems self-corrects but I’m free
pointing this problem self-corrects cut off free porn and this problem
self-corrects because you got dudes who can just sit
around and go and relieve the pressure I’m a sniper now man there is hope for
everybody but just like any of us if we want to get better
we gotta address it and you know blessed is the man a fortunate is the man who
has friends around him who can tell him amen the saint right women need somebody tell
you your girlfriend your slip is showing so what we’re going to do is I’m gonna
see what we can do to actually help guys like the last guy that call or any of
the guys a call to see what can be done to try to shared some light on these
things because that’s the you know light is a good disinfectant um if you like
these kind of shows guys I’ve had a lot of positive feedback
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I’m hungry I’m glad we were had a chance to work some of this out I’m glad miss
latisha had a chance to come out and feel like she actually had a chance to
clear some things up and takes a lot of courage to come in here and talk to
folks you know I give it I was his thing I always get Boca credit for coming the
top I’ll get it people that credit for
coming to talk okay if you have any if you’re looking if you’re in the Atlanta
area and you want to be a part of my project upgrade I’ll be doing the
we minced all over but you got to be in Atlanta and I prefer you to be aged 24
to 54 the before-and-after is going to be insane if you want to talk to me and
get some advice here’s my advice line 15 minutes 30 minutes an hour if you want
to get some advice on business is my business advice line there’s no overlap
in these things neither one of these has anything to do with style if you want to
learn how to actually become a more effective sales selling yourself better
communicating talking building rapport all that stuff that I know how to do
very well there you go but the best overall placed thing to do is actually
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learn your style personality and we touch on all those areas your appearance
your behavior your communication your digital footprint this is what you got
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until the next time talk at you later Godfather ow